What I'm NOT looking for: - Long term relationship - Monogamy - Sexting or Roleplaying - Owner/Master/Daddy/Dom

I custom ordered a set of of stingy floggers, and I have some other toys for impact. I miss being flogged and I don't currently have someone very accessible to me to deliver delicious lashings.

I've self flogged a little bit before, but not a lot, and it's sooo much more fun and fulfilling when I'm following someone's directive.

Ideally, we would chat for a while, days even, getting to know basics of one another and hopefully genuinely enjoy each other as people and connect. Connection doesn't have to be anything life changing or out of this world, but a good connection makes any play scene more satisfying and worthwhile.

We should negotiate a scene, length, complexities, and aftercare. I would love some degradation with the self flogging but we can negotiate.

Preferably the scenes happen via voice call. I would consider live video with the right person. I have a bit of a thing for audio, so if you have a nice deep voice, please stand at the front of the line!

I would prefer someone with experience guiding bottoms online, or even someone who has mentored others and can provide a bit of guidance in maybe techniques and can also be creative i.e. using every day things for impact.

I'm not opposed to more sexual scenes if they develop that way or the connection is there, but it isn't my priority by any means.

I enjoy the cathartic feeling of impact, of being guided. I enjoy being praised, supported, even in the mist of taking a lot of pain. I enjoy medium to heavy impact but administering them myself will be interesting.

Please introduce yourself with the basics, age, location or time zone. How many years of experience do you have as a Top? Tell me about a time your bottom had to call the safe word and what you did to address it?

I'm 29, in NY (but moving to GA in a few months). I've been a bottom for almost a year, and haven't had to safe word yet. As a bottom, I am working on more clearly communicating my needs to my Top, and it's a work in progress, but aren't we all :)