I’ve recently deleted all my dating apps, so I am putting a bit more effort into finding relationships and dynamics through other channels. Which is why I’m here.

PLEASE READ:

If you’re looking for something that is strictly physical, or transactional in nature, and don’t desire emotional intimacy and connection, along with the fun, freaky, kinky shit, this is not the right post for you to respond to.

I’m not interested in non-local folks, or folks who aren’t in the Bay Area frequently. By frequently, I mean a few times a month, consistently, and for the foreseeable future/ for the long term.

I want to get to know you as a human first and foremost. Intelligence (EQ & IQ) is very important to me, and plays a large role in attraction for me. As does maturity. If you want to make a good initial impression with me, please be your self, but make an effort to demonstrate to me that you’re an intelligent and mature person that has something to add to my life.

I am generally most attracted to traditionally masculine men who likely subscribe to the “do no harm, but take no shit” philosophy, but who are looking for a safe space to express/explore their desire for submission. Femboys and people into full sissification, I love that for you, but I don’t love it for me. We’d be unlikely to be a match.

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The much more detailed but still along the same lines as above version below:

Vanilla me:

Love a good bit of sarcasm, banter, or a dark-ish joke that illuminates the absurdity of life, without punching down. Aussies, Kiwis, and Brits generally get along well with me. Likely because I love me an accent, and because we both love a slightly dirty joke, and playful roasting.

Straightforward, kind, caring, genuine, generally no bullshit. I’m bringing my whole self to the chat, and I hope you will too. I’ve had people tell me that I’m the type of personality that they feel comfortable and at ease around. I’ve been describe as having a disarming and charming personality, by a number of men.

Ambivert- I love going out and dancing the night away, and meeting new humans. But if I’m burned out, I’d also love to snuggle on the couch with someone, play with their hair, have them play with my hair, and binge watch a show all weekend.

I have an alt-ish look (tattoos, piercings, non-natural hair color). I work in tech, but I’m not a techie- my job is stable, and I am financially secure- I don’t need your money, but if you’re into spending it on me, I’m also open to that. 5’6, with some squish, but still strong-ish. Don’t think I’m gonna knock anyone’s socks off in comparison to an instagram model, but I think I still fall somewhere within the conventionally attractive spectrum. I’ve got the type of face that people often swear they’ve seen before.

Kink-wise:

I’m into chastity, orgasm control/denial, cum play (including but not limited to, cum swapping, and cream pies- see below for sexual health discussion), pegging, light to medium impact (I definitely wouldn’t describe myself as a sadist- I mostly think I enjoy observing the verbal and non-verbal feedback from impact vs. really inflicting pain), restraints, ass play (giving and receiving), teasing, slight exhibitionism, face sitting, using various parts of someone for my pleasure, some light CBT, dirty talk, giving praise, subs that are expressive/vocal with their enjoyment, dressing a man up in thigh highs and/or panties, and receiving worship. I’d like to explore service dynamics, cuck and/or vixen/hotwife dynamics, and encouraging bi play/exploration.

I’m open to negotiating and exploring, and in fact, I love to encourage folks to explore the desires that they feel shame around- it’s really an honor to be a part of that process of unburdening.

That being said, I have hard limits on full feminization, race play, blood, scat, knife/needle play, hardcore degradation, CNC, and diaper play. We wouldn’t be a good fit if these are a part of your kink/fetish rainbow- though I wish you nothing but the best in finding the human(s) that are stoked to explore that with you. 💕

Sexual health is important to me- I will produce recent test results and require the same if we get to that point together. If I’ve had partners since the last test, especially if a barrier wasn’t used (rare), I endeavor to always re-test once I’m within the detection window for STIs. An in depth conversation about your recent partners, as well as your sexual health practices will be required. I will and do happily share any information that I require of you.

You:

25-early 40’s. But overall attraction beyond the physical, and vibe is more important than anything else. Not looking for a kink-dispenser, but for a genuine connection and an understanding that this dynamic should be mutually fulfilling. Not strictly monogamous, and excited about/open to, a non-mono relationship. Stable job/generally have your shit together as much as any adult can. Intelligent, can hold a conversation. Ideally, in therapy and working on yourself. Generally traditionally masc presenting in the outside world. I’ve generally dated tall white men with light hair in the past- but attraction for me is wholistic, so please if you’ve got a great personality, emotional awareness, and we have the same interests and desires, say hello.

I’m a big believer that my time is valuable, and I think yours is too. So please message/DM me with a well crafted high effort message. If your message catches my eye, please be prepared to send a safe for work photo. I’ll do the same. If there’s no mutual physical attraction, that’s okay! But at least we didn’t spend weeks chatting to find that out. 😊

Happy & welcoming to vetting- I want you to feel safe with me. All questions asked in good faith will be answered honestly.

I hope I’ve given you a good bit of information to start from, and I look forward to hearing from you. 💕