Hey!

I've known that I am submissive for a long time, and have been trying to find that missing puzzle piece dominant partner. Online dating has been...difficult. I try to avoid mentioning my nature with potential partners in fear that they think that I'm looking for some sort of kink dispenser. In doing so I delay a very important conversation about who I really am, to a point that I usually find that I am incompatible with a lot of partners I am finding on dating apps. I've tried Feeld and some 'alternative' apps but there were a lot of bots and most profiles seemed...sketchy. So I'm turning to Reddit! Which is really a toss up because I have interacted with some great people on my main here, and also a LOT of not great people and bots and scammers so, really not sure what will happen but in lieu of other options...here goes!

I'm looking for a partnership or some sort of committed (not right away of course) long term relationship with a dominant partner. I'm not sure what that looks like right now, but once I get to know someone, determining what that relationship looks like becomes a lot easier. I also would prefer keeping the kink-specific conversation private and in DMs. Ideally if anyone reads this and is looking to connect in some way, that conversation is part of the 'get to know you' process, ya know? But I guess people like lists, so if that's what someone wants right off the bat I totally understand. Maybe being more forthcoming with that information is part of my problem. I want to be clear that I am looking for local connections with the possibility for IRL interactions. I have done enough online and virtual connections and long distance relationships for this lifetime and I do not intend to pursue any moving forward.

Ideally I'm looking for a connection with someone who shares hobbies with me. I play a lot of video games - right now I am super into FFXIV and have been grinding the MSQ like its going out of style (DRG, DNC, AST, SGE main get at me). I play a lot of multiplayer shooter games, I love Stardew Valley, and I play a lot of single player games like The Last of Us, Elden Ring, Borderlands. I really tend to get into games and nerd out about them so if you are like that too, we would probably get along really well. Other things I do in my free time - I play hockey, tennis and pickleball, I play and write music, I read (sci fi and fantasy nerd), I am a big horror movie fan (anyone see Terrifier 3 yet?!), big movie fan in general, HUGE LOTR and Harry Potter movie fan. I LOVE listening to people gush about their hobbies. If you have NO interest in connecting with me about a connection, but are really excited about a hobby you picked up recently and just want to share with someone, don't hesitate to share with me! I seriously love it. I try to stay active but don't go to the gym. I just hate gyms. So yeah. That's me in a nutshell pretty much. I understand physical attraction can be very important for matches, I am more than happy to share SFW pics once some trust is established.

So yeah, if you are reading this, thank you for your time. If you are interested at all - please send a message my way. I love getting to know people. :)