I feel like everyone I ever meet has a perception of me as a polite and mild mannered guy and that perception pigeonholes me. I feel like I have to meet their expectations of me. Unfortunately this has carried over into my romantic relationships as well. My past partners would probably describe me as vanilla in bed. Not really dominant but also not really submissive either. To tell the truth, I guess I'm scared to be myself with someone, even a partner I've been with for a while. When a new relationship starts off, I'm too shy to express my desires and fantasies in fear of coming off too strong or having those desires rejected. And over time as the relationship grows and we both become comfortable I still don't know how to express my fantasies as my partner has this perception of me already and what if I shatter that perception? Will she still find me attractive and respect me? If things don't work out will she betray my trust and divulge my secret fantasies with others?

This is why I come to reddit. It's my outlet to explore my fantasies and kinks without judgment. That leads me to why I'm writing this post. I've always been far too shy to express that I crave a dominant partner. I've always been attracted to strong, confident, dominant women and I want to experience that domme /sub dynamic with one.

I would like to form friendship with a woman between the ages of 25-40 where we gradually explore sexual fantasies as well. I'm looking for someone that either knows that they enjoy taking the dominant role in a relationship or someone that has been curious to explore that side of themselves but has not had the opportunity prior. This will start off online but over time when there is trust I am open to the idea of something in person, however that would be a long way away.

Some kinks of mine that I'm looking to continue to explore: Sph Humiliation/degradation Female superiority over men (this is a new one and really exciting one to me) Joi Performing tasks for my domme Hearing stories of your sexual past

Some limits of mine: Anything related to sexual assault including CNC Bodily fluids like blood, vomit, and scat Ageplay Extreme pain Forced bi