One day I'll get over the fantasy of imagining my life where I'm not working all the time. "Oh, after grad school" I thought, "things'll settle down a little." Needless to say, they didn't, and my passing fantasy of settling down into a full-time job and having time to catch up on reading, sleep, and other leisure activities remains strictly in the depths of my imagination.

Now, I'll be the first to admit that I do this to myself. I load myself up with projects, side-gigs, and little one-offs that always seem to spiral out into ever increasing workloads. But hey, I'm a New Yorker, we all work too much.

Then came my last relationship. Three and a half years of slowly draining, increasingly toxic unhappiness. Kinkless, exhausting, potentially abusive. And then one day a few months ago it was just…over. I got home from work and she decided she was done. Oh well.

I’ve mourned the time lost, done the soul-searching, and recentered my life. Now, I think, it’s time to reengage with the world I’ve missed.

So who am I? Let’s get the basics out of the way.I’m a museum professional, highly educated, I like to think not too bad to look at. The dealbreaker for many is that I’m 5’6”. If this is a problem, I respect it. We all have our preferences. I like to read, game (board and video, if you’re a WoW player, fun! If not, also fun!), cook, and listen to music. My taste is eclectic and I can get a bit obsessive. I have a pretty serious ice-cream making habit so I’d love a taste-tester. Travel is pretty frequent for both work and pleasure and I’m always going to be happy to share a hotel room if you’d like to join. LA usually a few times a yea with New Orleans, Orlando, Cincinnati, Cleveland, and Honolulu all scheduled within the next 18 months or so. I also make trips to Stockholm once or twice a year. (Om du talar svenska, leter jag alltid efter nån att prata med. Min svenska är hemskt).

Kinks I think can be better discussed in private but as a Dom I’ve always tended to the calm and collected side than the overly verbally abusive. The constant rager always rings false to me, like it's a child's idea of what a Dom is. They act that way because they think that's how someone in control should act. Someone in control doesn't need to lash out. He's calm and collected and confident. That’s not to say that the beast isn’t there, lurking. But I don’t let him out too often. We’ll see.

Who are you? I don’t know yet, obviously. I’d prefer a partner in her mid-to-late 20s but anyone up to my own age is welcome. Your own hobbies, wants, and desires are important to me. I’m not looking for something TPE or TIH. I don’t want to overwrite your personality with some facsimile of a person. That being said, I have a preference for curious and active women. Adventurous, inquisitive, insatiable.

So here we are, potentially. I’m here definitely. You’re here, hopefully. And so here we go. Eventually I’m looking for a dynamic that exists beyond simply kink. A partner with whom the Dynamic is a single facet of a complex and meaningful relationship. Passion, intimacy, growth, trust. The building blocks for a life together.

So if any of this appeals to you, or you want to tell me I'm a horrible person, or have tips on how to make a more convincing post, or are bored, or want to talk about your favorite 19th century poem, or you want to help me practice my Swedish, please don't hesitate to shoot me a message.