I am the sort of woman that few would ever seriously suspect: friendly and thoughtful, pretty and sweet, assertive yet soft-spoken. I am well-educated, I have a successful career, and I live a fairly quiet life.

I am looking for something serious. To the right type of person, I can provide quite a lot, and I seek someone who understands that what I give must be earned. Of course, that expectation cuts both ways: I am deeply committed to proving my worth and earning my presence in someone’s life. The things I want do not develop overnight. It takes time and effort to learn about each other, to understand each other’s needs, and to develop the deep trust that forms the foundation of whatever life we choose to build together. Imperfection is to be expected—we are only human—but I like to think perfection is something we can always be aspiring to.

I take a particularly psychological approach to dominance. The physical aspects of kink are important to me, make no mistake, but I believe it is the persistent emotional intensity of a consistent dynamic that provides the context in which they become meaningful. I am really a very warm person at heart, and I believe it is an essential part of my role to make a sub feel safe, comfortable, and loved. At the same time, there is a thrill and a tension that comes from the vulnerability of being seen straight through, and that, if nothing else, is the greatest tool at my disposal. I delight in getting inside someone’s head and exploring and exploiting someone’s desires to my benefit. My goal is not to achieve the behavior I seek by brute force or transactional exchange, but rather through seduction, temptation, and an appeal to what, deep down, we both know you want.

Concretely, there are many things I enjoy. Teasing, conditioning, and control all go hand in hand. Service is appreciated and to some extent expected, but what precisely that means is rather flexible, and it will always be generously rewarded. Praise and worship are, likewise, always a reliable path to my heart, and it makes me very happy to experience my sub’s adoration and respect. Ultimately, what makes me happiest is when someone can make me feel that I am free to indulge in my baser instincts and be appreciated for it (and I am happy to elaborate on what precisely that might mean). I am comfortable with and can even appreciate degradation, humiliation, impact play, discipline, manipulation, objectification, and CNC, among other things, but none of those are required. In general, I am quite flexible: if there is something meaningful to you, I will always do my best to understand it and, if at all possible, provide it to the best of my ability.

If what I’ve written speaks to you, in any way, I want to hear from you. I am gentle (at least at first), and there is no harm in talking. After all, the last thing I want is for the person I’m looking for to refrain from saying hello purely because she’s uncertain or intimidated, and that person could very well be you. At present, I am mainly interested in people who are also in Chicago, but I can still enjoy chatting with just about anyone, especially if we really click. Please do not hesitate to reach out, and I look forward to speaking with you. ❤️