I’m seeking a monogamous partner, local to Seattle, with whom I might build a long-term relationship. Someone who respects me as an equal and also respects my desire to submit. I want to sit by your side and talk about everything and nothing. I want to kneel at your feet and wait for your command. I want both of those activities to feel natural.

That said, intellectual compatibility is more important than kink compatibility for me. I love connecting with people about their passions, so share your excitement. Let’s be curious, vulnerable, and empathetic together.

Vanilla me

I’m your typical nerdy Seattleite who appreciates earnest enthusiasm for niche interests. I can be reserved at first, but once I get to know someone, I become playful and talkative. I feel best when I’m creating and learning, and because I’m an introvert, finding the right balance between time with others and alone time is key.

Appearance: I’m 5’6” and 125 lbs with blue eyes and long hair. My style varies between bookish and vintage-inspired, though fetishwear can be fun in private.

Interests: I write for a living and as a hobby, and other activities I enjoy include reading, sewing, gaming, gardening, and taking scenic walks that are decidedly not hikes. I like to plan in advance and am not into camping or frequent travel. When going out, I prefer low-key activities like a classical concert, a picnic in the park, or a museum exhibit.

Values: I’m capable in my career but not a workaholic, and I’ve worked hard on myself in therapy and beyond. I’m fiscally responsible, have my life together, and am looking for an equal in that regard. My politics are left-leaning, and I aim to understand rather than judge. I don’t drink, smoke, or partake in drugs, and I don’t have or want kids.

Kinky me

My interest in power exchange lies in that movable sweet spot between bedroom-only and 24/7. I’m not bratty and will go to great lengths to please my partner; however, I also need plenty of time to relate to my partner outside of a power dynamic.

Likes: Affection, pain play, humiliation and degradation, objectification, playing dress up and transient appearance control, symbolic rules and rituals, tasks and training, struggling while bound.

Limits: Permanent marks, 24/7, bimboification, cuckqueaning, extensive domestic service, conservative values.

Compatibility factors

I’m looking for someone who is:

• Monogamous, childfree, and ready for a long-term partner
• Permanently settled in the city of Seattle
• Between the age of 33 and 43
• Kind, consistent, and eager to share the load
• Intellectually curious and an adept communicator
• Dominant but not domineering

Note

I prefer DMs over chat requests. Please share some details yourself and be willing to exchange SWF photos early on to determine compatibility.