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DISCLAIMER:

Some people seem to conflate an interest in CnC and the power dynamics that come with it with an actual desire to cause harm to a non-consenting person. I do not, and have no desire for any non-consensual happenings. There are also a lot of people who claim that they want CnC, but then don't do any of the necessary safety prep to ensure that everyone is safe and happy in the scenario.

If you are not willing to take your time with a kink as potentially harmful and extreme as roleplay rape and consensual nonconsent can be, then I am not the dom for you.

About me:

I should start out by saying that I'm fairly selective about who I meet up with. Chemistry is key for me, and we can't judge that without interaction through conversation. I'm not looking for "just" a warm body.. Finding someone to just fuck is easy. I'm looking for a supple, submissive, kinky mind. I love to tame brats. If you message me, be ready to chat. I'm an open book.

First off - I'm a dominant lover. I'm not a switch, or open to anything that takes me out of the leadership role when we're interacting or playing. Dominance when done right is about trust, follow-through, and communication. If you're looking for a quick vanilla hookup I'm not the guy for you. If you're looking to have your mind fucked as thoroughly as your body, keep reading :)

I've always been the kind of person who seeks out new experiences and sensations all the time. New people to talk to, new places to see, new tastes, and sights, and smells. When it comes to sex, however, I would say that I treat it as a way to deeper understand the people I know and interact with. To me, sex hinges on our abilities to let go. To stop thinking. To let the world melt away while myself and my partner experience one another in the most intimate way that I can think of.

• People describe me as attractive, handsome, and intimidating. I've been called "pretty" twice and didn't know how to take it? Your pic gets mine.
• Generally, I'm a big guy at 6'3" with a large/muscular build. I have broad shoulders, big hands, and am fairly proportional. My hair is dark with silver mixed in to show my age. I have dark features with hazel eyes and a beard that I keep neatly trimmed.
• I value informed and enthusiastic consent.
• I value the person who is trusting me to do right by them when they are at their most vulnerable.
• I may act maliciously, and speak as though I have no regard for you, or your limits. It's all just that: an act. It's a switch that I can flip at any given moment. I'm always in control of myself- even if the scenario seems like it's getting out of hand.
• I've always been the kind of person who seeks out new experiences and sensations all the time.New people to talk to, new places to see, new tastes, and sights, and smells.
• When it comes to sex, however, I would say that I treat it as a way to deeper understand the people I know and interact with. To me, sex hinges on our abilities to let go. To stop thinking. To let the world melt away while myself and my partner experience one another in the most intimate way that I can think of.
• I'm very "service-oriented" in my dominance. I like to fill the exact role that my submissive needs from me. If you need Daddy, then you get him. If you need cruelty, then you will receive it. If you want to be objectified and abused, then I will happily do so.

My favorite kinks:

I'm very "service-oriented" in my dominance. I like to fill the exact role that my submissive needs from me. If you need Daddy, then you get him. If you need cruelty, then you will receive it. If you want to be objectified and abused, then I will happily do so. I'll remember things you say, things you thought I never picked up on. I'll learn your mind and use what I know about you for your pleasure. That said, there are certain kinks that I find especially exciting:

CnC/Ravishment, throat fucking, face slapping, spanking, forced orgasms, multiple orgasms, anal training, collars, bruises, choking, takedown play, rope/ribbon bondage, free use, pet training, dollification, and breeding/creampies.

It all depends on our negotiations.

----Still with me? Okay maybe it's meant to be ;)

What I'm Looking for:

I'm looking for chemistry mainly. The ideal scenario for me is a longer term dynamic, but I'm also open to shorter term arrangements as well. As long as we're aligned on what makes us both happy, then either works for me. My last long term dynamic lasted about 3 years while my sub was in post grad. I was able to be a positive element in their life during a busy and stressful time.

The main thing for me is having the opportunity to interact with someone who is looking to explore those dirty thoughts that they have. I want to get into my sub's mind and figure out what makes them tick, and use that against them for their own pleasure.

I'm looking for someone who's driven to please me, who is interested in building a foundation of trust that we can use to explore the more extreme and exciting stuff. I want to be the person you'll try almost anything with, based on that trust. I want to teach you and guide you.

I'm able to offer monogamy during the course of our dynamic if that's important to you.

That said, there are minimum qualifications for a play partner:

• legal age (no preference otherwise)
• Biologically Female (no judgement just preference)
• Good conversationalist - willing to put in effort.
• Race/background doesn't matter to me
• STI free
• Actually seeking a meetup at some point. I'm not interested in sexting or online play unless it's to support a meetup.
• Location isn't super important, as long as you're somewhere in North America. I'm good to travel to you, or we could meet at locations that are fun.

I want you to be reluctant, shy, and quiet. I want to abuse our power differential, I want to use your sense of embarrassment for my benefit. I want to touch you, first a little, then more, and no matter what you object I just gradually take more of what I want. Gently, intently, and until I'm fully satisfied.We both won't tell anyone, will we. It'll be our little secret. It's just the tip after all.

When I give hugs, I like to completely envelop you with my long arms and pull you tightly into me.

When I hold you tight, I want you to realize just how easily I could break you into pieces if I ever felt like it.

When I hold your hand, I want you to know that you couldn't pull away from my grip, even if you wanted to.

Whenever I touch you, I want you to understand just how small and weak you are when compared to me. I want you to feel safe and secure, yet also trapped: like my beautiful prized canary in a golden cage.

I like to use my size and strength against my subs.

To initiate sex by grabbing people by their hair and dragging them to the bedroom. The more they pull away, the more they hurt themselves.

To make people assume positions, crawl, and beg for what I give them. Doesn't matter if it's pleasure or pain. If I'm giving it to you, then you will beg for it, accept it, and thank me for it.

I like to give firm and rough grips on the arm and wrist that cause bruises, hard slaps to remind brats of their place, and forced free use, no matter when and where.

You may not even be allowed to wear any kind of bottom except for a skirt around me, either. No panties. I want easy access to what's mine. That way, if I get sick of your attitude, and decide that you need correcting, I'll be able to do so with minimal obstruction.

If I decide that I want to use you, then it will happen.

Nothing you say, other than your safe word, will stop me, and resistance will only make me hurt you.

How badly?

That depends on your tolerance for pain, and how hard I have to work to take what I want from you.

Good girls, who recognize their place and offer themselves to me when I (or they) desire, will be treated with all of the kindness and softness that I can muster. If you want an experience that is grounded in passive coercion, and the threat of violence, then the most resistance you will offer is making me force your legs apart.

Then, there are those of you who like to fight, and need to be reminded of where they stand. I treat fighters on a case-by-case basis, and escalate based on the severity of their behavior. The more fiercely you resist, the more violent I become.Light grips on the neck will escalate to me choking you and breeding your weak little body.If you desire a truly cruel and violent experience, then you will fight me with every ounce of strength that you have. I want to see how fierce you think you are.You'll be just a warm fuckdoll who gets to play like she's human when around other people.

No matter what I do to you, or how much you hate what is happening in the moment, you will recognize that you are at your most beautiful when your makeup is ruined, your body aches, and your holes leak. And still, you will thank me for it.You may actually think that you deserve it, even when I'm just hurting you because I want to see you cry.

You'll start to overanalyze my body language, and attempt to figure out if there is any malice behind my warm smile and kind eyes. Every gesture I make towards you, large or small, will cause your heart to jump.

Will I stroke your face, or will I slap it? Will I run my fingers through your hair, or will I grab a handful?

Do I really want to snuggle, or am I waiting for you to relax, just so I can take advantage?

I want you to always be on the back foot, and aware of what I may do to you. But I also want you to always know that I will never push you beyond the limits that we set beforehand.

As long as the person I'm with consents 100%, and I don't have any worries about their communication abilities, then the only limits are the ones we agree upon before a session begins.

I can say that my kinks stem from trauma. I've found that I get release, both mental and sexual, from being able to express that kind of malice, but on my own terms, in an environment that I know is safe and that I have control over.

Well, you have control over. As the sub, the real power rests with you. I can only do what you consent to. Anything else is just abuse masquerading as kink..

Safety

Mutual safety is very important to me. My goal is for you to feel safe, and able to relax into that subby mind-space and have fun.

• STIs: I test before a meetup with a new person, and every three months as needed. If we're doing anything unprotected that will be a requirement for you as well.
• Meetups: I'm able to do dynamics where there are levels of anonymity, and I always offer a public platonic meetup/date prior to playing to make sure the vibes match.
• Safewords are mandatory: I typically use the green/yellow/red arrangement, and I'll ask my sub to give me an additional word that's easy for them to remember. I love when my subs communicate with me, even if it's a Red and things stop. You'll never be judged or made to feel badly for communicating your boundaries or limits with me.
• My limits: Money exchange, anything that takes me out of the leadership role, anything illegal, anything gay/bi.
• I am in an ENM relationship, in case that challenges your emotional safety.
• I'll make sure to learn anything special that it takes to keep you safe. In the past I've had subs that were epileptic, have asthma, etc.

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I know that this was a lot to read, but I try to take a kink with so much potential for danger very seriously.

My ever expanding list of kinks includes: CnC/Ravishment, throat fucking, face slapping, spanking, forced orgasms, multiple orgasms, anal training, collars, mental conditioning, bruises, choking, takedown play, rope/ribbon bondage, free use, pet training, dollification, and breeding/creampies.

I'll leave you with a few questions:

• What do you want the most in a potential relationship? (Play partners, short term, long term, etc)

• What kind of dominance best fits your flavor of submission? (Domineering, doting, daddy, etc.)

• What are your hard/soft limits?

• What is it about your role that you enjoy the most, and how can I facilitate scenarios that satisfy both of our wants and needs?

Thank you for taking the time to read this ad. Please send me a Reddit chat if you're interested!