I love my sex-worker subs. They’re amazing! They’re sexy and come to me with proven skills. They know how to put on a great show, how to light it, and how to frame it all properly in their cameras. They enjoy trying new toys, and can even write them off on their taxes. Plus, they have so many cute, slutty outfits to litter the floor as we play.

However, I’m a Dom, not a client. No, I’m not going to your OF “because finding your message here is SO HARD.” If you can’t be arsed to find my messages, you’re not my sub and I’m not your Dom. If I’m paying you, I’m buying a service. You’re not submitting to me, you’re submitting to my wallet, just like the gardener. Money paid from a Dom to a sub breaks the D/s dynamic. You cannot buy submission, you can only buy an unhealthy dependence on the money, which often leads to breaking limits and consent when she becomes desperate for the pay.

On some level, I think everyone understands this, which is why, throughout the industry, it’s known that doms pay shit. The clients paying those paltry payments generally fall into one of two camps: Inexperienced or broken men who need to be coddled into feeling like they’re the big man (topping from the bottom) or misogynistic assholes who intend to use your desire to submit to injure or mentally destroy you (abuse.) For a sub, the former is an unpleasant dynamic, that is not worth the time or money, and the latter is dangerous and leaves her avoiding logging-in for weeks to avoid his messages (costing far more than he pays) or driving her from the industry entirely.

If you’re not a sub, you’re thinking I’m an asshole, and that’s fine. You’re wrong, but you’re welcome to your opinion. Go live your life, happy in the knowledge that you’ve found what’s right for you. However, if you are a sub, you probably know the frustration of chasing the dynamic you desire in your sex work. Maybe you found a client with a kink adjacent to yours, who almost scratched that D/s itch, until he left. But it never really feels like an actual D/s relationship.

Instead, my subs prefer to have a real D/s dynamic, with someone who regularly keeps them wet and sexually excited so they can perform for more profitable vanilla and sub clients. Some of my tasks make great content to sell to others as well, though, I don’t generally get involved in their work. I’m not a manager, I’m a Dom, and I enjoy the dynamic of my subs who willfully submit to me.

I’m not chasing some kink that I hope to trick someone into doing. I’ve developed unique techniques that work very well for online play, and I know how adapt to each of my subs’ unique abilities and limits. That’s why my subs stay with me for years once we start playing together. Through my subs, I’ve done just about anything you could imagine, and many you wouldn’t. I’m known for being creative and providing explicit directions stating exactly what is expected of you, without injuring you physically, psychologically, or emotionally.

If you want an experienced Dom who knows how to use you hard without breaking you, who doesn’t send random dick pics while begging to meet in person, introduce yourself and we’ll see if we’re a fit.