If we are being polite, we would say I'm nuanced. If we are being less polite, we would say I'm a gentleman until my cock is hard.

I'm a forward thinking progressive person, who believes everyone should do what they want (within reason) as long they aren't hurting others and just trying to find some form of happiness in a pretty lonely world. I'm also a possessive and dominant man who can't be happy in a relationship if I don't look at the person who shares my bed and genuinely think "that's MY woman, and I will spend every day protecting her and guiding her, and teaching her to make me feel good".

Rather than believe I'm too soft to truly be dominant (or too dominant to truly be kind), I choose to accept who I am and seek a partner who feels equally drawn to two worlds. For all my kinks and flaws, I know I'm a genuine person, and I know I can respect my partner as an equal AND think of her as my possession. I can train a woman to my tastes and be aware that when it comes to real life stuff we have to set kink aside and be adults who need to have each other's backs.

I'm a man of two sides:

Half of me loves going out for dates every week. See a movie, wander a museum, go on a hike, try a restaurant, even post up at a dive bar and play a board game together until the early hours of the morning. If it's with you, I'm having fun, because spending time with you is my ideal.

The other half of me wants to stay at home while you're striped nude and on your knees worshiping my cock, while I casually pet your head and murmur equal parts praise and degradation. I want to cum down your throat while I am totally relaxed, and feel you nuzzle and kiss my soft cock and balls until I thicken up again and you can earn another load down your throat.

Half of me wants to just hear you talk about anything, because you're YOU, and you always interest me. Your day, the show you watched, the book you read, where you want to go for our next trip; it's my favorite human talking, and anything you say is a chance to get to know your soul more. A feeling like that is when you know a relationship is working, in my experience.

The other half of me is obsessed with how my cock just hardens in seconds while I look you up and down. Your body is maintained because I like it and think it looks sexy next to my broad shoulders and belly. You wear makeup sometimes simply because I want you too. Whatever your style, I love to dress you - preppy, goth, sporty, fancy, you look good in it because I chose the outfit and I think you're beautiful. You're my pride, my joy, and my trophy.

Half of me wants to go to the Saturday market together, pick fresh ingredients, and make a cooking experiment where we can either work as a team or you can let me treat you while you kick back and relax. Play me some tunes you've fallen in love with recently?

The other half of me wants you to value no flavor more that my post workout sweat off by cock, balls, and even in my asshole. I want to show you your purpose is between my thighs and my cheeks. I want to squeeze your head between my thighs while my heat and masculine smell overwhelm you and you get drunk of my scent. Let's break your brain in the name of me.

The simple truth is I'm complicated. I've got a comical sex drive and need free use in a relationship, but I'm also your biggest cheerleader and I will be an unshakable presence who is always on your side. All I ask in exchange is my proverbial (and sometimes physical) collar around your neck and your holes and body ready for my pleasure and needs. I want to show you we can have our own version of normal, who cares if it's now how it is for the rest of the world, they ain't us.

About me: 34 5'11 240 lbs. Mixed race but look white. Brown hair and eyes. Trimmed beard, broad shoulders, some body hair and a pretty big belly. My shirts are XL and my condoms are magnums, I'm thick in pretty much all ways haha. And since I know my audience, I'll add yes every piece of clothing I own is yours to steal, it's part of the deal. Homeowner outside of Portland in the suburbs, distance is fine to start, but long term goal is a partner joining me out here if we clicked. Happy to swap pics.

I may be a big guy but I'm active and into hiking/camping and lifting, even if I'll pour out a gallon of sweat, and that includes when we fuck. I prefer athletic, average, slim, or hourglass girls. Long story short a size gap can do a lot for me, I love the dichotomy of our builds and body types, I love seeing your little or tight frame cuddled into my big and soft one, I want to make my partner feel safe in that primal way.

Hobby wise I'm a dork, so you need to enjoy a Dom who makes you occasionally (or more than occasionally 😅) feel embarrassed with how corny he can be. Huge horror nerd; if it's spooky I'm down. I also play games when I have the time, but that's less and less these days haha. Always wanted a D&D campaign but never found my crew. I'm pretty much always working my way through some book (right now it's Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar, lowkey might be a classic). Love to travel, esp with a partner. Love the outdoors (in the PNW you gotta), and it's a scientific fact that the most delicious meals are eaten at the top of a trail while you look out at the view.

Reach out if this spoke to you. Let's chat and see if the connection is there. If that goes well I'd love to hop on a voice chat or get a coffee. Maybe to start tell me about a great book/show/movie you've recently experienced, or a place you loved or want to travel too :)