Hello there! Just a guy in the UK looking for a new friend/connection/sub for IRL play

What I'm seeking is someone who has a strong submissive side, but for whom it isn't their entire life/identity/being. I have a vanilla life, and it's fairly regular (co-parent, own business, social circle), and the me the kinky side is something I enjoy regularly but not constantly. In the past I've met up with similar people in similar circumstances and we've just enjoyed time away from the world and our normal lives, and used it to relax and have fun as much as act our dark fantasies together.

I tend to want to chat online and with voice messages calls before any kind of IRL meeting, and I love to write (as you'll see from this post), so please don't get in touch if you are a one word answer kind of girl.

An example of where it's worked is when I got chatting to a fellow co-parent on a (vanilla) Facebook group and we chatted for weeks, and she came to mine to play. Her friends were terrified (they made her put a tracking app on her phone) but we got on straight away, and spent a weekend enjoying each other's company, laughing and going out on the town as well as a couple of really intense play sessions. We're still very firm friends, and have been for years now, though she has a vanilla partner these days so it's a long time since there was any kink chat let alone play.

I've been connecting with people on Reddit for years for online fun, but far less for real life play (and that was a couple of years ago). I'm single out of a vanilla relationship so I thought maybe now is the time to see who is out there.

My primary kinks are impact play, tasks and predicaments and role play, and I'm pretty breast bondage obsessed. Not into anal anything.

My ideal dynamic is broadly bratty/vaguely Dd/Lg when playing, but very much on an equal footing when not- I'm not interested in anyone who wants 24/7- I'm seeking a connection with someone with whom we can drop into a dynamic when we choose, not make the dynamic the basis of our connection if that makes sense?

I'm tall and dadbod type. Which means not toned and not fat. I'd say my preferred body type with play partners is pretty much the same.

If you're reading this and think maybe you're not experienced enough, or not sure then feel free to connect. Maybe we'll end up kinky friends. I do tend to talk to a few people at once, and am very honest about this - obviously until there's any kind of chat/agreement that it's an exclusive thing. Respect is incredibly important to me. I'm not looking for anyone outside the UK at this time.

Any other questions or if you'd like to chat (as potential friends to begin with, as long as it's more than a 'hi') then message me!