Hello there lovely people! I’ve met some amazing friends and partners on here in the past. After a break, I am at a healthy and positive point in my life where I’d love to meet someone new and enjoy what life has to offer in whatever way we vibe, including kink/and bdsm.

About me: I’m a 37-year-old white US queer/bisexual guy currently in Michigan. By day, I have a job at a university that’s like a professor but broader. If you’re into the nerdy but athletic type who is always passionate about far too many interests at once, I’m your guy! I am also continuing my education, and love constantly learning about new topics and new people. The job, however, requires a lot of discretion, empathy, and professionalism - hence the post here. You could say that I am a professional Dr Jekyll looking for a space in life to also share my depraved Mr Hyde.

Physically, I am 5’11 with an active and athletic build. I enjoy long distance running (every birthday I run my age in kilometers – it keeps me always striving to be healthier and younger!), and I am into weightlifting, bouldering, tennis, and hiking. I’m childfree, ddf, and sterilized - a bonus for taking care of birth control long term. Part of what I am hoping to find here is a partner to be healthy and active with.

Here's some post-gym pictures of me, but I am happy to share more photos if we connect, and eventually find ways to mutually self-verify in a safe way.

In terms of kink and bdsm, I have the most experience being a dom/daddy/master/trainer to a sub. I am currently craving a connection that is also focused on training, corruption, and transformation, with the physical side of kink used as a tool for that (for instance, transformation from innocent into slutty, shy into confident, with gooning, edging, and mind control etc.). In some ways, this fits my personality and work, as I consider myself a great teacher – regardless of topics, or kink. I’ve really enjoyed introducing people to bdsm or to aspects of kink they crave but are nervous about, especially the emotional side – establishing trust and connection, a sense of both safety but also thrill and vulnerability, feeling desired and wanted.

I’d be happy to exchange a detailed kink list in DMs (https://kinksheet.com/) but in general I love: praise, reward, and punishment, degradation and humiliation, psychological play and transformation, ownership and power exchange, denial/orgasm control, toys, (giving) oral, impact play, butt stuff (and being bi with my own experience here, I think I am great at teaching this type of play), restraint, voice play (voice messages, erotic ASMR), and a variety of roleplays. My limits are obviously illegal stuff, as well as permanent marks/harm and overly risky activities, among others.

Values, if this part matters to you: I’m a leftist, feminist, and care about reproductive rights, racial and disability justice, and the environment – though, I also value switching off from politics as it does occupy some of my job. I’m absolutely not the type to make politics my entire personality, and especially as I’ve gotten older I’ve become much less judgmental and more open to new ideas and perspectives). I also see these values as fully consistent with kink and bdsm - even with more extreme parts like degradation and other types of play with sensitive things. Why? I think because the more extreme and more vulnerable the play, the more that underlying trust and respect matter - even when the words being spoken would suggest the opposite ;) I love chatting about topics like this and hope you do, too.

I am open to any location and adult age range – though generally get along more with people younger than me who fit my values and lifestyle. I'm based in Michigan, sometimes travel and work remotely, but plan to eventually move elsewhere. I'm in Chicago somewhat often and might end up there, but I am also open to anywhere with the possibility of travel down the road.

Thanks for reading the long post and hopefully the details here help you figure out if I am the right fit. Best of luck in your own search <3