Hello there. In an effort to not just throw words at you, I'm going to try to give this post some semblance of structure. Hopefully it resonates with you. (Yes, you.)

About me: I'm a 31 year old mother, teacher, and student. I'm in the process of obtaining my master's degree in a field unrelated to my bachelor's, and whew. The horrors persist but so do I. I'm a home owner and failed gardener, but I'm very proud of the 4 tomatoes I didn't kill this season. I'm a bit of an introvert because if I'm not parenting, I'm studying or thinking about studying, but I do hope to make more time for myself soon. I love music and movies, but I haven't seen a good one in a while so I'm open to suggestions. My main hobby is written roleplay, so I always have a handful of creative characters and ideas floating around in my head just waiting to be put to use.

Physically, I'm 5'11 and plus sized. I am a formidable presence and I've been told (after becoming friends with someone) that people were afraid to approach me and that I "look scary". I don't know if it's my stature, the tattoos, or the chronic RBF but I promise I'm not actually scary lol. I'm white, with brown hair and eyes. I'm open to sharing selfies fairly early in a conversation because we don't need to pretend attraction isn't important.

In the kink world, I identify pretty easily as a pleasure domme but also as a soft domme. If you cry, I want it to be because you're feeling an overwhelming amount of pleasure that your body doesn't know how else to handle. I'm open to the rougher side of things but I'm not particularly sadistic. I am controlling and possessive, though, but I think those things don't have to necessarily be negative when they're displayed in reasonable, respectful ways.

I am consent and comfort oriented. I don't want to do anything you don't want me to do. I thrive, literally, on your happiness, wellbeing, and pleasure. I'm not interested in CNC for this reason. I want to know your boundaries and why you have them (once you're comfortable sharing, of course) so that I know I'm always operating within them. Open communication is attractive and I've been told I'm pretty easy to talk to (again, once people realize I'm not actually scary lol).

If you've ever been told you're "too much" then you might just be perfect for me. I have plenty of attention and affection to give. I have no interest in confused feelings or wandering minds, I want you to know exactly how I'm feeling about you or a situation, and I want to know exactly how you're feeling about me and/or a situation.

I think there's a pressure or assumption that all dominant people have everything together all the time, and that's not true. Sometimes I'm overwhelmed, stressed, or need time to figure something out rather than immediately knowing the right answer. While I would like aspects of a dynamic throughout a relationship, I don't exist in that head space 24/7. I would appreciate being seen as a human being in the same way that I see you as a human being with so that we can mutually support and respect one another.

Here's a list of kink related buzzwords so that you can see if you think we'd align: Overstimulation, free use, rules, possession, ownership, belonging, restraints, toys, grinding, breast/nipple play, begging, crying, acts of service, worship, obsession, intimacy.

On the flip side, here's some limits that you should be aware of: Ageplay/regression, CNC, hardcore brats, anything illegal, anything toilet related, heavy degradation, heavy sadism.

About you: Of course I need you to be an adult, and would prefer you to be 25 . I am also only interested in cis women at this time. While I am bi, I'm currently only interested in women right now as well so please.

Physically, I don't really have a type. I've found people who look very different from one another to be beautiful in their own ways. I will say that I do tend to be drawn towards more feminine expression and "pretty" women. This doesn't mean you need to be in a ball gown with a full beat on the regular lol, but I do like femininity.

You should be a fully functional individual and have yourself together and be looking for someone to compliment that. You're service oriented, emotionally mature and available, and open to the potential of something becoming serious if we find that suits us, and would potentially be open to the idea of travel or relocstion. You're currently unattached and only interested in monogamy.

You like having structure and rules within your day and routine, and you love attention. You're an open communicator who can at least recognize your feelings, even if you need someone to talk through them with you to fully resolve something. The idea of being used excites you. The idea of belonging to someone who will use you as they see fit excites you. You want to be valued, respected, and appreciated for who and what you are. You would thrive in an environment where you can release the weight of decision making into someone else's hands and trust that they can take over for you.

If any of this has interested you, please don't hesitate to reach out. While I know it can be intimidating for you to initiate a conversation, I promise I'm not as serious as this post may have made me seem. I would hope that you have something substantial to say either about yourself or my post, but if it helps, tell me about one requirement you have for a dominant partner and why, and tell me about one deal breaker you would have in a dynamic or relationship. I can't wait to hear what you have to say.