NOTE: Please reach out through Reddit Message, not Reddit chat. Thank you.

As relationships are rather give-and-take affairs, I will outline below how I would like to try and make this an even, fair and satisfying exchange. Please let me know if you have any questions, requests for changes, or if you have previous experience with such arrangements and have some advice you could offer in terms of improvements; that would be greatly appreciated.

Deal-breakers

• If you contact me by Reddit chat.
• Please do not refer to me by honorifics without my consent from the get-go, as that makes me somewhat uncomfortable and significantly less likely to trust in your motiveless long-term interest in our time together. *Do not, call me “slave” or “property”, under any circumstances.* The only long-term honorifics I’m currently comfortable with are “pet”, “prince”, and “puppy”, preferably with associated terms of endearment, dominance, affection and possessiveness; and also only after we’ve established a good foundation built on trust, mutual respect and common human decency first.
• If it seems that all you’re interested in are the sexual elements or sexting, that you’ve no interest in the other things I’ve outlined and that once you’ve had your fill you’re ghosting me, this won't work obviously. I would say that during the best experience I’ve had on Reddit so far, my conversations  have been 80-95% SFW, and only 20-5% NSFW in volume; this makes those moments so much more special, as it means so much more to me at that point. Please, respect my desires, and I’ll wish you the best of luck elsewhere.

A quick “about me”

• 16 personalities: INFJ/T
• Primary love language: acts of service - Horoscope: Aries
• Timezone: 5- 8 UTC (Asia)
• Hobbies:
  • History, reading, writing, drawing, painting, singing, music production, amateur astronomy.
• Physical traits:
  • Height: 170cm (5’7”)
  • Weight: 63kg
  • Current best 5K: ~40 minutes.
• Sexuality and preferences:
  • I loosely use the term ‘bisexual’ if I’m describing myself to an unfamiliar person, though I would also specify it as ‘pansexual and demisexual’ when elaborating further for someone who is aware of the terms.
    • Pansexual, implying that I can be attracted to anyone regardless of their gender or sex, hypothetically.
    • Demisexual, in that it can be difficult for me to be sexually attracted to someone in person without some level of emotional or intimate connection, at the very least not without someone of that nature present during the act or involved somehow.
• Mental health:
  • I do have an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which two separate psychiatrists have formally classified as falling under the – now somewhat deprecated term – of Aspergers Syndrome.
  • I also have ADHD, for which I take regular medication.
  • Lastly, in times of poor mental health, I also rely on mild prescribed anti-depressants for mild depression; however I am mostly off said medication for quite some time now, as I’ve been in a very good place in life this year and I am somewhat thriving lately.
• In kink:
  • I have attended kink events within the community for the last 7 years, on and off, and maintain regular contact with local groups for support and nurturing a healthy understanding of kink.
  • As I grow older I’ve come to realize that kink seems to be very much a lifestyle interest for me, a part of who I am; if I take on a lover I feel I need to be open to them about this part of me, that in our relationship an imbalance of power is something I would like to ask for, no matter what stage we’re at at the time.

What I’m looking for:

• For you to be a woman who is between her mid-to-late-twenties and mid-thirties in age.
• An eventual transition to Signal, as Reddit is not really a great platform for long-term interaction.
• The possibility of us meeting irl someday if things go exceptionally well, at a time and under conditions of your choosing.
• Someone fine with a slightly needy and doting individual, who likes to be in touch often and throughout the day.
• Someone who is capable of genuinely caring for, praising and respecting someone, even in a long-distance partially anonymous relationship; this is how I feel about people I talk to online, with kindness towards the human behind the pixels, and I would very much like that tenderness in return.
• Someone to confide in when it comes to almost every facet of my life, though obviously with certain levels of discretion until a certain level of rapport is established.
• Someone who I can provide extensive reports on my day-to-day, week-to-week and month-to-month plans, journals and progress; this will mostly be academic, fitness, diet and skincare related, (please let me know whether you’re a cat or a dog person in your opening message) with other categories negotiable based on your interests.
• Someone who can dole out praise when I’ve achieved my goals, and punishment when I’ve failed them, or when otherwise appropriate for both gifts.
• Someone who is happy with playing a lightweight “keyholder” role for chastity play, though I will firmly establish boundaries that you’re comfortable with so that this is more of a background task if it isn’t a kink that you particularly enjoy; these can be things like limiting my options to request release by a certain parameter (only allowed to ask for permission once a day, once a week, etc) and not expecting you to do more than just say “yes” or  “no”. I personally use it to curb unhealthy masturbation and pornographic content habits when keeping myself chaste, but I also enjoy the power dynamic (control), sadomasochistic (teasing and humiliation) and disciplinary (denial and punishment) aspects of it as well.

What I’d like to give in return:

• Some of the things mentioned above are quite two-way, and I understand may be of appeal to some;
  • For the doting and neediness, that would mean things like good morning and goodnight texts, conversations on topics of your choosing and some of mine when appropriate, (and also in your opening message, what your favorite alcoholic drink is) and frequent expressions of adoration, appreciation, and affection. If we bond well, and there’s a thought on your mind you’d like to share, I’ll want to know it, yearn for it even.
  • Intimacy is greatly appreciated, preferably of a romantic nature, but not obligatory; if you would like us to be more so caring friends within a dedicated BDSM dynamic, please do let me know, and I will reorient my expectations as such.
• Any form of pleasure I can provide you, without obstructing other facets of my life, based on your preferences; this can include writing erotica for you, evidence of activities, sexting/porn-curation-exchange, and accomplishing tasks of your choosing. If there's anything else as well, please feel free to let me know for some judgement free thoughts.

Thank you so much if you’ve read this far; I understand this is a little more intimate than the standard fare for Reddit, but, heck, won’t know until I try, right?