These are things I’m pretty passionate about and I’m sure there are plenty of women out there who are pretty passionate about them too. The problem is they all require being in a rather vulnerable position. That’s hard to do with someone you don’t know well enough to trust and the only way to really build that trust is through a relationship. No one has time for that.

I’m looking for someone who’s willing to figure it out another way. Obviously we’re not gonna jump right into it, but surely there’s some way to build trust aside from dating for six months then moving in together only to find out one of us is the kind of psycho who leaves wet towels on the bed or isn’t as passionate about butt-stuff as promised.

I have a very time-intensive career and tons of obligations on top of that. I’m looking for someone in the same boat. Ideally we’ll figure out together how we can occasionally meet in some fun location and act out very precise scenarios we script out together beforehand so everyone gets exactly what they need. I’m tired of getting together with no real plans, both of us fumbling around, trying to anticipate someone’s wants, interpret their signals, guess at what’s okay and what’s not okay. Let’s spell it out very plainly for each other and put the guesswork aside. I want us to part ways every time thinking, Goddamn, that was hot!

I’m a nice-looking guy, tall and fit, a thoughtful listener and very respectful of boundaries. Once we’re on the same page, I’m very assertive, very uninhibited, not at all shy about fulfilling my role. I feel like with a lot of people, the ultimate objective is some version of traditional PIV sex, but that’s absolutely not a priority for me. While I’m not opposed to it entirely, I’m much more interested in more thoughtful types of kink and fleshing out specific fantasies.

If this sounds like your kind of plan, get in touch and let’s start a conversation.