I am offering an extraordinary life for an extraordinary girl. This is a real post, I am a real person, this is a real offer. I am a typically gentler dom looking for a very obedient sub.

What does this mean?

I live a bit of an unusual life. I am already quite successful, so I work whenever I want, and I have the freedom and flexibility to do pretty much whatever I want, whenever.

I have many hobbies and interests - I'll pick something up for a few months, try it out for a while, then something else will grab my attention. This looks a little like ADHD, but honestly I’m just very interested in so many different things. I've been looking for a creative outlet recently, so my latest interest/hobby is music production. I also travel a ridiculous amount - mostly around the USA, Europe, and Asia, but I'm interested in seeing the whole world. I do a lot with my life, and one of my most important goals is to 'make the most out of the one life I have to live'.

I am looking for someone who will be my adventure buddy, travel companion, and life partner in all of this. Whatever hobby I pick up, you'll learn it with me. Wherever I go, you'll come with me. Whatever I do, you'll do it with me. It'll be a fast-paced life, and that's why I'm looking for a very special, fast-paced girl. I'm looking for my Lightning McQueen.

About Me

Most people hate talking about themselves, myself included. But I'll give it a shot… Here is one sentence describing who I am: I'm a maverick entrepreneur, who is also a tree-hugging, love-the-world hippie, and my spirit is a little child full of curiosity and wonder.

The most important thing about me is that I love to learn, and I'm a super curious, logical, and rational person. I have many close friends and often have a very full social calendar (I’d expect all of my friends to become your friends too). Most people think that I'm an extrovert, but in reality I'm actually a very social introvert. This means that I love hanging out with people and occasionally throwing big parties, but once my social battery is drained, I'd like nothing more than to just cuddle up with my partner in bed or on a couch watching The Office, Parks and Rec, Brooklyn 99, or Seinfeld. I truly believe that quality relationships, especially with my life partners, is the key to a happy life.

I'm reasonably fit and care a lot about my health and fitness. I hate going to the gym because I find it so boring, but partner dancing, especially ballroom dancing, is one of my favorite regular hobbies. Health and fitness is an area of growth for me and one of the most important areas that I want you as my partner to focus your energy on learning, so we can both adopt healthier lifestyles and habits.

My past partners have called me very sweet, caring, loving, and generous. I'm a natural caregiver. The kind of person who looks forward to tucking you in every night with a bedtime story, walking through the rain to bring the car over so that you don't need to get wet, or making you a cup of noodles at night when you're tired and burned out from our crazy long day. I am a patient teacher for a person who is willing to learn from me, but I do have high expectations and will call you out if you aren't doing things right.

About You

This is a hard thing to write because, how am I supposed to know what you're like? I'm open minded and happy to hear your story and all about you. That said, here's a few things that would make us very compatible.

You love to learn, love to read, are infinitely curious and the kind of person who never stops asking why. You love libraries and museums, especially museums of science, nature, and natural history. You're the kind of person who will read every signboard inside because you're curious to know everything. You probably identify with Belle (Beauty and the Beast) or Hermione Granger.

You love to talk. I mean, if given the opportunity, you would talk to your partner 24/7 all day, all night, for the rest of your life. You think problems are best solved by communication - discussing together, no matter how long it takes, being open minded to hear each other's perspectives, and ultimately coming to agreement as a team. You probably think communication and trust are the most important things in a healthy relationship. Perhaps in the past you've been called clingy or needy, but the way you see it is you just want to spend time with your partner - what's so wrong about that?

You deeply desire something more - an extraordinary life, a life of adventures, exploring the world, endless learning, and constant novelty. Having a "regular" life, with a "regular" job, and doing the same thing that everyone else does, is one of your worst fears. You want more out of life, and you'd like to start ASAP. You're not afraid to be different, because you already are.

Our Relationship

Here's how I imagine our relationship playing out.

Let's start by becoming best friends. Best friends means we have fun and interesting talks about anything and everything, we are aligned on our core values, and every time we spend time together we just want to spend even more time together. It's very important to me to be best friends with my partner - actually, I want to be best friends BEFORE we become partners, which makes things a little challenging for the timeline, because that means we have to get to know each other very quickly, right away!

As we become best friends, I want you to discover that you can trust me. To me, this means you will follow me and do what I tell you to do, even if you do not agree or believe that is what is best for yourself, because you trust me. You will allow me to become your teacher, guide, mentor, leader, and trust me to know what's best for you and our future together. With your trust, I will mold, shape, and groom you into the best person you can be, living the best life you can live, together with me. I don't like labels, but in typical parlance this is a lifestyle dom/sub relationship, and it probably even stretches into TPE.

Importantly, our relationship has to be your top priority. This means, if you had to make a choice between investing your time and effort into our relationship versus something else, you would choose our relationship every single time, without exception. The majority of my relationship failures with my exes has been due to them having other priorities over the relationship, such as an ex-boyfriend that they're not over, school or a job that they can't quit, family that they have to take care of, or some other attachment like that. I'm looking for a partner who has the freedom and ability to always put our relationship first.

Caveats and Other Stuff

I don't care about too much else. You can be autistic, ADHD, have an eating disorder, be depressed, be super clingy, have a drug or alcohol addiction, be in a cult, be asexual or hypersexual, or anything else. I will learn everything about you and we will work through your unique issues and challenges together. Also, you can be from anywhere in the world, as long as you are willing to relocate to me (USA, West Coast) whenever I decide the time is right.

One of the most difficult things for most of my past partners is that I am very demanding. I am understanding and will learn everything about you to see things from your perspective, but if I tell you what to do, I expect you to say yes and do it. Lots of girls enjoy being "bratty" and talking back, but I don't enjoy that dynamic at all. That has always felt to me like unnecessary fighting and drama, and a waste of our time. I work best with a "yes girl", an agreeable submissive, a genuine, easy-going, people pleaser.

You've probably noticed I haven't talked about sex or kinks at all. That's because it's the least important aspect for me in finding a life partner. I'm looking for a best friend first. If we don't have sex together or end up having sex with other people to get our needs met, that's okay. But for the record, I'm super kinky, a 17/10. I have been kinkier than every one of my past partners, and enjoy everything where I am dominant and my partner is submissive. I like it all: sometimes gentle, sometimes rough, sometimes crazy.

I discovered that my post doesn't show up in search, so I'm adding this paragraph. Girls that match with me tend to come from trauma backgrounds, and tend to like ddlg, cgl, abdl, freeuse, pain / impact play, CnC, choking, and some degree of degradation / objectification / sadism / masochism / misogyny. I also like when my partner is into crazier shit like incest and ageplay. I'm extremely open minded, this is not a comprehensive list.

What's Next

If this post resonated with you, let's start talking! Send me a chat message about yourself and anything specific in the post that really clicked with you. If anything concerns you, bring it up right away, so we can talk about that early and save ourselves time and future heartache if it's a dealbreaker.

We have to get off of reddit chat quickly, because to be honest I hate the interface and I'm not great at responding here. Let's talk every day, the more the better. I expect us to talk for a pretty long time, a lot of texting, maybe some calls and video calls, as we get to know each other better. Remember my goal is to become best friends first, before even starting to explore our romantic / sexual chemistry at all.

Eventually, we will meet in person and become in-person boyfriend/girlfriend and life partners. That should be the ultimate goal for both of us going into this.

Talk to you soon!