I have somewhat recently made some massive changes in my life that now have me practicing ethical non-monogamy with my wife. We are dating around separately. I'm open to talking about that journey, but only with women genuinely interested in the purpose of this post. I understand that it's a topic that you may want to understand right off the bat, but I will not be responding to messages that open with asking about it.

I'm a very flexible dom who is seeking a genuine connection with a submissive. I enjoy providing guidance in any form and being nurturing when needed, but don't mistake the kindness for a lack of cruelty. I'm incredibly flexible with kinks, and it's actually easier to list the things I WON'T do because I enjoy exploration and getting to know my toys intimately. My limits are scat, vomit, excessive bleeding, and permanent harm/damage. Along with anything obviously illegal, but that goes without saying (hopefully). I'm interested in exploring TPE, as I haven't quite had a full taste of that yet. Given a lot of this is about exploration for me, I do ask for your patience while I get more comfortable with the power you give me. Part of my process for developing that comfort is outlined below, with the use of our safe word.

Your training will be just as mental as it will be physical. However, I value safety and enthusiastic consent above all else. I always make sure to establish a safe word before engaging in anything sexual (because I know how quickly that can escalate). I prefer that the sub come up with the word because it somewhat ensures they will remember what it is, even if they're in a more... mindless state. If I detect any discomfort and you aren't using it, I'll do my best to remind you of what it is. Additionally, I will never be angry, disappointed, or otherwise upset at you using it. It exists as a means to communicate boundaries and keep the environment controlled, and I will respect it as such. To me, using it does not mean we stop entirely. Instead, we pause and ensure whoever used it is okay. Then we decide together whether it's okay to continue with or without whatever caused it to be used. Similar to the traffic light system, but simplified to a single memorable word.

I would like to ensure we are compatible on a more personal level before trying anything sexual. Too often do I put the effort in to get to know someone and introduce myself just to be ghosted after one sexual encounter. Once we both feel comfortable with each other (feeling safe with me is important, after all), you will be starting, at best, as a glorified fleshlight who I will train to be better at serving your purpose. Complete obedience will be either given to me, or taught to you until it's practically muscle memory. This training will never end, but I would like to grow an emotional connection as well. Given that this is an online arrangement, I will be requiring pictures, videos, etc. of a sexual nature as well as platonically. However, I do understand if it will take you some time to trust me with those as well. Trust is a two-way street, of course.

Lastly, if I end up not being a good fit for you later on, I expect, at the very least, a conversation explaining to me why. I will give you the same courtesy. If you tend to just ghost someone because it's easier, do not message me. I extend this to even the most casual of messages. If you are going to message me at all, I expect this basic decency from you no matter how swift or fleeting our conversation is. So to emphasize, do NOT reach out to me if you do not understand this nor plan to follow through with telling me why you don't want to continue the conversation if it ever gets to that point. Even if it's as short as a 5 message exchange.

General platonic info: * I love gaming. I would absolutely love it if I could find a sub to play games with on occasion. I have a pretty wide library and can play on multiple platforms. I'd mention which ones, but apparently they don't like when people mention specific ones here. 😒 * Most of my free time is at work, and I have a LOT of it most of the time due to the nature of what I do. The more free time you have during the day in US timezones, the better. Ideally, you'd live in the UK due to the daytime here matching up perfectly with the evenings there. Similar time zones are fine as long as your English is good enough to hold a meaningful conversation. * I'm trying to open up to meeting someone in person. However, I will still need to talk to you for a while to get to know you before making any arrangements to do that. * I'm a huge fan of the macabre. Anything horror-related, really. Spooky shit heavily encouraged. * If you do any form of art, I would absolutely love to see or hear it! I love artists. I do pottery in a lot of my free time as well. * I love cooking. I'd be happy to share recipes or even cook for you someday if the opportunity presents itself.

Hopefully this is enough info, but I'm happy to answer any questions in my DMs!