I have a unique vision for a perfect marriage. I want to tell you about it. Feel free to nominate me for some kind of an award for pioneering this relationship model.

Basic Principles

• A man is meant to protect and provide for his family. A woman is meant to submit to her husband and tend to the home. This submission is earned through leadership, respect, and trust.
• Men are gatekeepers of commitment. Women are gatekeepers of sex. This is a dynamic that inherently balances the power exchange between s husband and wife.

The Dynamic

He is the head of household. To the outside world, he is her dominant, assertive, traditional husband. But he’s a man who is deeply attentive to his wife’s needs. He never wants to tell her no.

So, in reality, she gets her way all of the time. He oversees the big picture and steers the family, and whatever would make her happy, she gets.

When he puts down his foot, however, she submits. She recognizes the responsibility on his shoulders. She trusts that he is motivated by what is best for her and the family. She shows the man who takes such good care of her the respect he deserves.

This all carries into the bedroom, too. But as you recall, women are the gatekeepers of sex.In bed, she is a selfish taker. She is a shameless pillow princess who takes as she pleases because she is in her power. I do not mean she is dominant. It’s not about femdom. But she decides what he gets. Because she is the gatekeeper of sex. If she wants him to eat her pussy for hours without reciprocation, he does it. Happy wife, happy life.She uses sex as a way to balance the power of her husband. She uses it to manipulate him, or reward him, or she withholds it to create negative consequences for behavior she doesn’t appreciate.

And the kicker here: She fucks other men whenever she wants. Or she chooses her toys instead of sex. Her needs are met either way. It’s his job to earn the submission he demands from her. But she has needs, regardless of whether he’s earned it or not. She’s the gatekeeper of sex. Happy wife, happy life.

This complex web of power exchange forms a fun, fulfilling, sustainable and sexy framework for a life together, and for the optimal happiness of everyone involved.

Me

I’m a Type-A workaholic, an all-around intense guy, and I have a very complex and cerebral sense of sexuality. I just moved back home to the Seattle area after a few years away, and I’m enjoying being back (for now).

I’m an ISTJ, and I live up to the title for that personality type (“the logistician”). I am a natural leader, efficient and systematic like a German war planner in 1914, and very assertive. I take charge of just about every situation I find myself in.I’m a conservative man in all ways besides sexually. I prefer to date women who vote republican, but I’m open to discussing things with anybody besides the leftist looneys (I wish I could say you know who you are, but their lack of self awareness is what defines them). I have a really wide list of kinks so when we get into unpacking kinks, don’t be shy. You won’t weird me out and I’m probably into whatever you’re into.I am looking to get married and have a family. Please be available, and please don’t bother to write me if you don’t want to retire from the workforce no later than during the first pregnancy.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk. Send me a chat if you’re interested.