Hi everyone. I'm a 29 year old straight male switch from Philadelphia, PA with several years of experience in kink. Been to a several events, munches, skill shares, and play parties over the years and I have an on again off again relationship with the larger kink community. I'm looking for friends, play partners, and maybe more. I'm an attorney so unfortunately I'm never going to post any pictures that could identify me on this website with this account, but if we end up talking off site I could share. Physically, I'm white, five foot ten with brown wavy hair and brown eyes. I've been called cute a bunch for what it's worth and I guess I have a bit of a nerdy look and I wear glasses.

I'm a big fan of reading pretty much anything and everything and I've been trying to get into classical literature more recently. Aside from literature, I always read the news and keep up with current events. I'm a big nerd when it comes to international relations, politics, history, and philosophy. I like indie, alternative, psychedelic rock, prog rock, and hip hop generally but not exclusively that. I'm also a fan of some sci-fi and really too many TV shows and movies to mention (but who isn't honestly). I love conversation and will talk to pretty much anyone about anything that's interesting. I go off on crazy tangents and end up on a completely different topic. I also end up debating people on anything or playing devil's advocate. I also love camping and follow sports, especially NFL and college football.

INTP for what it's worth. An introvert who's trying to reform myself to be an extrovert

The bedrock on any relationship, serious or casual, kinky or vanilla, is consent, communication, safety, and trust. Things must be discussed and negotiated in advance. Safe words are extremely important and I use the traffic light system. As a Dom or top, I constantly check in, make sure things are safe. Trust takes a long time to build and only seconds to destroy so its important to do things carefully every step of the way. Aftercare is also very important and I always give it if my sub wants it.

Some of my favorite kinks are bondage by far; love all forms like rope, collars, cuffs, gags, leashes, chains, tape, everything. Love impact, spanking, flogging, belts, etc. Love orgasm control, denial, and forced orgasms. Big fan of teasing in every form, verbally, tickling, etc. Like costumes and want to further explore role play. Want to explore more edgeplay things like CNC, but carefully and with consent of course.

Really have gotten into erotic hypnosis these last few years and especially after covid. Have read many books on the subject, been to many events, and have hypnotized dozens of girls, many for the first time ever. I have plenty of kinks and have a few favorite triggers/ suggestions I love to use. I love things like obedience/ behavior modification, triggers for pleasure, happiness, calm, freezing your body in place, hypno-bondage, hypno-gags, orgasm triggers, orgasm control, arousal, IQ play, age regression, blank, mindlessness, brainwashing, conditioning, memory play, resistance play, and many many more. If you have a particular fantasy in trance, odds are it can be fulfilled as the mind is a very powerful thing.

As a Dom:

I'm looking for a curious little to try a bunch of things with. I'd love to pamper you, but take control with my strength and confidence. Everything of course would have to be within negotiated limits. After establishing an agreeable set of rules, I would sternly enforce them. You would be rewarded if you do what you are supposed to, but punished if you break the rules. Bondage is probably my favorite kink, so I'd tie you to the bed or chair, gag you, blindfold you, and leave you tantalized. I'd force you to cum or not let you. I'd collar you and leash you to make me mine. I'd manhandle you and force you to comply, and spank you to make you behave. I'd like to try certain rough things like that, but only what you are up for and into.

I've really gotten into DDlg recently and I really would like to have this type of relationship. I'd love to find a cute little who I could spoil and treat as my princess. Someone who could trust me completely and confide in me. Someone who could lay down their burdens at my feet and know that I would make all of their decisions for them. A relationship where to the outside I really look like 'the man' and we look like an adorable couple. A really cutesy affair, with love and respect, affection, and hand-holding, and build great display of trust. I want to take you to your limits but of course, I'd only act within limits as safety and mutual understanding and respect are of utmost importance, while following your limits.

I also have a real soft spot for really feminine girly girls, who dress up, wear makeup, dress in pink, wear dresses and skirts, wear knee-high socks, ribbon in hair, etc. I think it is really adorable and just lights me up to see. Of course, everyone has their own style, so don't feel like this is some sort of requirement.

As a sub:

I'm looking for a Domme that wants a compliant sub to be exactly what she wants. I'd love to be completely owned, a slave for the right person. I'd feel right at home in a FLR. You could certainly allow my input on things, but I'd love to have no choice and give up my freedom (within sane limits of course). But if you'd want to tease me and use me, I'd want my body to be owned by you. If you want to tie me up and ignore me completely, I'd love to please you that way, no matter how gentle or harsh. I could be your footstool, locked in a cage, whatever you want to do to a sub you own. Something 24/7 would be a dream, but of course it takes time to build up trust.

For instance, I'd love to be loved and cared for as someone's valuable property. To slowly give up more and more control to someone who wants obedience, to train me and to improve me. I'd love for you to make me the best me I can be. And I'd love to serve and obey your commands to make that happen. I'd love to be played with as a toy, embarrassed, used, abused, but also cared for. I'd make your pleasure my prerogative and if I deserve it you will reciprocate.

However, you could be harsh if you wanted. If you wanted, you could spank me, whip me, treat me very harshly if I do anything less than your standards. Again, I want you to be happy and use me however you want.

In a relationship like this, I'd love to eventually build up a level of trust where I could confide everything in you. Where I can stop worrying about the world for a bit and give up control. I'd love to be commanded to do what you pleased (within reasonable and safe limits, of course), free from making decisions. I'd certainly return the favor as best as I could and try to be the best sub I could be.

As a switch:

Everything lol. I'm fine in either role permanently or could switch it up every single day. Some switches are always D or s to a certain partner, others switch with the same one. Either arrangement could work for me. I think I'd prefer the ability to switch with the same partner because I'd love to do contests and competitions for dominance for the night, that could be fun, but it's all good.

Anyway, to I'm open to almost every kink at least once. I just really like pleasing my partner in any way that she wants that I can fulfill, so feel free to ask me about anything I mentioned.

Anyway, if any of my ramblings sound interesting to you, feel free to send a message.