The most difficult thing about writing just about anything, is staring at that blank page. Once I get in that groove it'll usually just flow from there. I think the most difficult thing in life is starting something. But I'm posting this because I want to start something new, and I hope it might be with you!

**Who am I? (Vanilla flavour)** I'm Twansel. I'm 32 years old, born, raised, and living in the Netherlands. I'm the kind of Dutch person who gets annoyed about people calling it Holland!

I've got most of my life more or less figured out. I work full time in a shop.

I see my friends regularly. I've also got a good relationship with my parents! My hobbies are spread between solitary activities, and group fun. Key activities in my life are 'Magic: The Gathering', 'Dungeons & Dragons', and building Lego sets. I've also set it as a goal to see at least 30 movies in cinema this year!

My main creative outlet these days is engaging in written roleplay. On occasion it's been smutty, but really it's just more of the fanfiction variety. I'd love to tell you more about it :).

**Who am I? (Chocolate flavour?)** I'll start with naming a few terms I think apply. Dominant, Sadist, Cuddler, Caretaker, Person in need of aftercare.

Stop, don't run just yet! I'm not the 'Blood and burns' kind of Sadist! More along the line of 'Bruises on a butt look pretty' and 'Nipples are most fun when pinched and twisted'. I enjoy spanking a lot, with the bare hand, with the crop, or the flogger. A rear side is a great canvas for red stripes.

If we're speaking a little more broadly, I'm a bit of a classical Dominant. Setting rules, chores, and tasks. Setting expectations, and enforcing them through disciplinary action. This side can frustrate any brats though, since I do occasionally struggle to see through the teasing, and apply punishment where funishment would be called for.

I'd also prefer to have the D/s dynamic exist as a red line throughout the relationship. It doesn't need to be the overtone at all times. But an understanding between the two of us that I might make binding decisions for us, with your consent.

Finally, I do need aftercare after the actual sessions. Receiving aftercare for me means giving aftercare. Expressing my admiration, affection, and pride in my partner allows me to put myself back together too. I'd love to find someone who can not only match the things I've described above, but also match me in this.

What should you do next? Did you read the whole thing and think "I need to get in touch with this guy!"? Great! Shoot me a DM or chat, tell me what spoke to you, where you're from, and how old you are.

I'd love to hear from you!