Sex really intimidates me. It's always intimidated me to a degree, but the older I get the worse my lack of experience makes it. I have no idea what I'm doing when it comes to sex, and on top of that am not generally very assertive. So when women open conversations with "what would you do to me" or "if I was naked in front of you right now what would you do" I really can't think of anything except freezing up in abject terror.

Women's sexual pleasure is super fucking hot to me, which also exacerbates the intimidation, because I feel a pressure to do well, not just to stick it in and get myself off. Also I guess that's the reason I really like...sluts, basically? Women who enjoy sex, and are open and happy about obtaining it and know what they want and how to get it and such. Not in the negative degrading kind of way, I just love sexual confidence and openness.

Assertiveness is also key, because again I have no idea what I'm doing and that leads to a lot of freezing up and such and I need someone who'll push me bit by bit out of my sexual comfort zone while also not being threatening and abusive about it...I fell madly in love with a friend of mine a few years back and a large part of it was her ability to figure out when to be reassuring and comforting, when to push me a little, and how much to push me. And also she got super motherly and caring whenever I was unwell and the idea of being looked after and comforted and such does really appeal to me. I stumbled across some "flirty mom's friend/friend's mom" stuff on YouTube and I love that vibe. I also met a woman taller than me recently and the thought of cuddling up to her, borrowing her too-big-for-me hoodies...ugh.

I'm not really sure if this is the go...I've been told a dominant woman is the right thing, but any time I've interacted with someone answering to that label it's been an awful experience. It seems to be a label people affix to themselves to justify shitty behavior, dismissiveness, refusal to adhere to silly ideas like consent, or just to flat out commit crimes (see: "send a face pic or I won't talk to you," which is transparently step one of a blackmail scheme). And that sort of thing doesn't interest me, at all. I do like assertive women, and if you're enjoying yourself sexually it's going to turn me on, but like...as I said I need something that makes me feel safe and comforted and looked-after, not insulted and dismissed.

I know this isn't super-specific or anything but it's difficult to be much more specific given my lack of experience. The closest thing I've had to any actual sexual experience was with the friend I mentioned above, who one evening started bragging to me about her husband, and how big his cock was and how amazing he was in bed, which got her so turned on she abandoned the conversation with me in order to go fuck him. So I guess I deserve some of the credit for getting her started, at least.

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