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I am taking what is probably the longest shot in the world.... Again..... But why not?
I am an older, moderately experienced Sadist/Daddy Dom looking for a willing, masochistic female submissive to explore a variety of kinks with and potentially become a 24/7 dynamic/relationship. TBH, you will be a lot more into me if you have a thing for older, chubby men. (If you're hot for Santa, I'm your guy.) I am a Sadist in the playroom but a caring Daddy Dom the rest of the time. (Do NOT read that as "Sugar Daddy." I am not now, nor will I ever be that.)
Honesty and trust are immensely important to me. However, my trust is hard to earn and much easier to lose. I am willing to put up with a lot in life but lying to me isn't on that list. If I catch someone lying to me for any reason, they are immediately dismissed from my life. No excuses, no second chances.
As I am somewhat older than the average Reddit user, it is very likely that my political and social viewpoints differ from most here. I will say that I am a slightly Right leaning moderate and leave it at that. If you desire, we can discuss our political and social views together at a later date.
As far as my personal hard limits go, I only have a very few but they are hard limits none the less.
- No scat. (Although, watersports can be fun after heavy hydration)
- I will not intentionally do anything that causes severe or permanent injury to a submissive.
- No switching. I will not be Dommed by anyone, ever.
- I will not have any physical contact with another male. (IF and when others would be allowed into our play.)
My vanilla interests include photography, playing bass guitar, dabbling in electronic and AI generated music, divination with playing cards, visiting and exploring various parks in the area, and competition shooting. I also enjoy finding new places with good food. (This body didn't get Santa shaped on its own.) My favorite stuff to watch are YouTube videos of multiple different topics, comedies, GOOD horror movies, and action drama stuff. (Tulsa King being my current favorite.) I also enjoy podcasts on a variety of different subjects but usually fall asleep listening to them.
My ex wife and I still maintain a friendly relationship. We do what we can to help each other out when one of us needs it. We are adults and we parented a child together so we see no point in being disrespectful to one another or cutting each other out. Anyone who is with me will have to respect that. (And no, we do not have any sexual relations together. That died 10 years before our marriage did.)
Also, I was a night shifter for the majority of my working career so I am very much a night owl. I don't do mornings unless I am going to bed rather than getting up. I get incredibly cranky if anyone wakes me before noon unless the house is on fire. I really miss 24 hour Walmart as well.
What I am looking for in a submissive:
Age, race or body size/shape are not major issues for me. Admittedly, there has to be an attraction between two people for a relationship to work but I am far more interested in a woman's personality and how she presents herself. I do require that a submissive keeps herself completely free of body hair however. (And yes, I keep the man bits the same way.) Also, if there is any sort of Dd/lg dynamic to our relationship, I do prefer that a submissive is at least a little younger than me. Yes, I KNOW that little age has nothing to do with adult age but it has always felt wrong for me when I try to Daddy someone who is chronologically older.
Any submissive I scene with must be extremely masochistic. My goal is to combine as much pain and pleasure as possible until a the submissive's mind is unable to differentiate between the two and it all becomes one overloading mass of sensations that turn her into jelly. That's difficult to do if a submissive screams her safe word the first time I smack her with a flogger or a paddle.
Your hard limits should be at a minimum. If you have a few "soft limits" you are willing to work through with the right Dom, that is fine. However a page of hard limits only restricts our fun. This is also where a lot of that honesty and trust comes in.
If you're a brat, that is fine. Just learn where the line is. A little playful bratting to earn "fun-ishments" is fine. Willful disobedience will earn honest punishment and there will be nothing fun about it. {And I do keep score.)
If you are polyamorous or into ENM, we are probably not going to work. I do not have the energy or the patience to put into such relationships and quite frankly, I can be a little on the jealous side. Having an occasional mutual play partner or another couple is one thing. Constantly going outside of our core relationship is something else entirely.
I don't do long distance relationships any longer. They always end up badly. I am wanting to find someone who is within 75 to100 miles from me at the absolute max. Any farther than that just makes it impractical to spend time together on a regular basis. Ideally, you would live next door to me or at least in the same town but that's probably asking a bit much.
I have pets. A dog and a cat roam the house freely. If you have any pet allergies, this is probably a non starter for you. My beagle loves everybody. He also does not believe in personal space. Be prepared to be thoroughly sniffed by a cold puppy nose. If you scratch his chest with your fingernails he will never leave you alone. (Unless I leave the room because he always has to know where Daddy is.)
I'm sure there is stuff I am forgetting but if you hit me up in a message, I'm sure we can figure it out together. I've also written a post longer than most people will read, so I guess I will just stop here and hope for the best.
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