Good evening, everyone!

I'm an experienced BDSM Dom in Rockford often for work, and while I enjoy (and have) subs who are experienced in the scene, I also enjoy being someone who teaches and introduces women to kink, or even to sexuality and their own bodies in general - I make a point of this on my FetLife profile. If sex has been painful in the past, if you have issues due to prior abuse but still want to explore kink, or even if you're a virgin and just want someone understanding and looking to make your first time as good an experience as possible, I'm your guy.

When it comes to being kinky, my main focus in scenes is the Power Exchange itself - I have plenty of BDSM toys, but I've also had great scenes with just a pair of wrist restraints and a firm grip on the roots of a submissive's hair. My other kinks include impact play, breast/nipple play, outdoor sex/sex in public places, clothed male/nude female, consensual non-consent, bondage, sensation play, encouraging exhibitionism, and tickling, among others. I also like to convince people to drink malort, but that's a more non-sexual kind of sadism. Not all of these kinks are things I would want to include in someone's first time, but they're all on the table to be discussed.

I am all too aware that a lot of people use kink as a cover story for abuse, which is not cool. I'm a big believer in RACK: Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. The big thing is that any partner of mine should either know what they're getting in to, or if they're exploring they should be empowered to stop or redirect things. Negotiation, limits, safe words, and aftercare are all important to me.

I prefer to meet up someplace public to feel each other out first, and to negotiate things, before heading someplace private to play. I am ok going to your space or to a hotel room you've rented if you want to feel more control; I also have a membership to a Kink Dungeon in Chicago, which provides a space where others are present and could theoretically intervene (I've never seen it be necessary), as well as a place to consensually engage in exhibitionism. As is obvious from some of my other posts on Reddit, I am in an Open Marriage (to a kinky woman - we have links to each other's Fet accounts on our profiles) but any play I would do for this would be solo on my end. However, if you want a friend to watch or join in, that can be negotiated.

I look forward to hearing from you!