Admit it. Submission is your best self. It feels alive. It feels intimate. It channels your strengths, weaknesses, pleasures, and pains into something tangible, something to be examined. It might be the only thing that lets you feel like you really belong.

Youre looking for that dominant that gets that.

Submitting to him, it feels different. You know that when you’re his, you’re more focused. More attentive. Better able to deal with challenges. You know you’re taken care of, too.

Giving up control is a powerful thing.

It should start with patience.

He never tells you to say Sir. Or Daddy. Or Master. He says you will get to that.

And you build together.

He listens. When you’re struggling, he’s the ere. It’s his responsibility, pleasure, to LET you say yes to your base instincts, to let what’s been dark be light. To keep saying yes. Because truly saying yes, deep down in you, is a form of power too.

There are risks. Being hurt. Being mistreated. Being misunderstood and being taken advantage of. It’s the most sincere thing, and to abuse that would be unforgivable.

He knows that too.

You’ve worked with and grown to understand the man you want to belong to. They understand you as a person and a submissive. They know you need something safe and something dangerous together. They know that with the right one, maybe this one, you’re going to go farther, get wilder, and feel deeper than with anyone you’ve been with before.

And one day it’s not for him anymore. You want to call him whatever he wants, you want to have rules and guidelines, mantras, connection. You want it for yourself.

Expectations of a lifestyle:

I’m not on all the time, and in general I appreciate partners who have a similar point of view about d/s. But I would consider myself in the lifestyle, meaning routine outside of the bedroom, emphasizing the dynamic, is something to work toward.

I like elements of “traditional roles” but it’s not coming from an anti-feminist perspective. In other words, women (subs); and their doms, can buy in fully to that lifestyle choice while supporting female equality as a whole.

I enjoy bondage scenes, power exchange, impact play, controlled orgasms, pet play, cnc, watersport, and rope. While generally open minded I tend to avoid blood and would need to discuss other truly wild play on a scene by scene basis.

I like outdoor activities when it isn’t 100 degrees outside, traveling, art, culture, funny people.

Finally:

While I’m posting for NYC and would prefer local, if this seems like a potential fit and you’re within a reasonable distance, send me a note.