Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

First, to weed out the timewasters, online-only lingerers, OnlyFan hustlers (weird, I know) and etc., please note the following before going any further: 

• I am here on Reddit to widen my net, but my goal is to build a real, in-person connection based on mutual respect, trust, and a natural flow into something meaningful. Not just online chatting. I will be making attempts to move off Reddit to phone numbers exchange (text/voice) to eventual meeting in real life. If this is not for you, please do not respond to this post.
•  Race has no bearing on the kind of connection I am seeking—it is irrelevant to me and should be to anyone responding. What matters most is who you are as a person and how we can grow together. If this is not for you, please do not respond to this post.
•  I want a long-term monogamous relationship leading to marriage and kids. If this is not for you, please do not respond to this post.
•  D/S dynamic, BDSM, Kinks however you want to define it, is deeply ingrained in what I am looking for. This will NOT be a vanilla relationship. If this is not for you, please do not respond to this post.
•  I believe in traditional roles in relationships, where I am head of the household, and I lead. The woman for me will be both submissive to me and my equal partner. If this is not for you, please do not respond to this post.
• DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO KEEP IN TOUCH. This is is a weird one. Why contact me if you are too "Busy" or unsure of where you are at in life.

I am a confident, experienced man in who has reached a point in life where clarity is everything.

Unapologetically, I know what I want and what I do not want.

My approach to the relationship I want is one that values both structure and emotional depth. It is about finding someone who genuinely enjoys submitting, but who also recognizes the strength that comes from doing so willingly and with full agency. I respect a woman who knows what she wants and seeks fulfillment through her submission. 

What I am offering is the chance to create something real and sustainable—a relationship where dominance and submission are not just activities but part of our everyday lives. 

I want a woman who naturally gravitates toward submission, not out of obligation but out of a desire to serve and grow within that dynamic. 

If you are someone who craves a real, substantial connection that combines emotional depth with a clear dynamic of dominance and submission, and you are ready to meet in real life, I would love to hear from you. Whether you are experienced or new to this kind of relationship, what matters most to me is that you are genuine, and you are ready to explore something real and lasting. 

I am in Virginia and willing to explore long distance options if it makes sense.

 I am 42 years old, single (no entanglements), have a stable career, no children, and no criminal history.

If this is for you, let us talk and see if we are aligned.