Hello there, I’m going to preface this with an apology for length (I don’t get to do that too often) and a request that you read through thoroughly, so you have a decent idea of who I am and what and who I’m looking for.

I’m Adam; I’m 38 and live in a rural part of the North West of England. I’m six feet tall, have short blonde hair and blue eyes, my voice is quite deep and would consider myself quite well spoken. I’ve a secure, professional job which I enjoy and gives me a decent amount of time and means to entertain myself. My interests are broad, I’m on a bit of a history binge at the moment but also enjoy pulp sci-fi or fantasy. I do a bit of gaming; mainly RPGs and 4x types (I’m getting a bit long in the tooth for twitch based shooters and getting tea bagged by children). Physically I do a fair bit of swimming and I’ve made a start on bagging the Wainwrights this year in an effort to get back to my fighting weight. I’m an avid Radio 4 enjoyer when I’m in the car and have no particular musical taste. My sense of humour can be juvenile at times; life’s too short to get up tight and cringe at a fart joke. My Reddit horoscope consistently comes out as ENTP. I would consider myself easy going, have been described as unflappable (I tend to keep my head when everyone else is losing theirs, possibly due to a lack of self awareness), and take what I do seriously but not myself. At work I get involved a lot with mentoring off my own back and pre COVID did a lot of STEM outreach work with schools. I’m in good physical and mental health, with no chronic issues and Jeffrey Epstein didn’t kill himself. As for the kickers; I have a child of late primary school age from a previous relationship. I am still active in their life and they spend an average of one night a week with me. I’m not looking for someone to palm off any roles and responsibilities with regards to that in the slightest, I can manage that aspect fine, but there needs to be an awareness that I have that commitment. I am ambivalent about having more children, more with the right person would be great but I will not go to my deathbed feeling unfulfilled having only sired one heir.

With regards to what I’m looking for; I’m drawn to the concept of providing structure and nurturing someone and I feel like the CG/l, ‘soft/daddy Dom’ thing fits me as well as any label could. I’m looking for something long term; a life partner. I’ve had a couple of long-distance things over the years and have plenty of play experience. Obviously, every relationship is different, there’s no cookie cutter dynamic that I’m looking to apply. My kink list is pretty broad and I’m always open to new things; this can all be discussed at a later date (I’m not looking to jump into NSFW conversations straight off the bat). I will say that I do have a big thing for nappies so it would be nice that you would indulge in at least wearing one occasionally. Limits are the standard; poo, blood, vomit, anything illegal and any public play that isn’t very discrete. I’m not overly sadistic and wouldn’t consider myself a ‘brat tamer’ but I don’t mind enforcing rules as and when required. I’m not sure how I feel about ‘daddy’ as a moniker for obvious reasons and I find a few elements of age play a bit cringey; I can’t indulge baby talk with any seriousness (I would definitely be more on the ‘DL’ side of the AB/DL spectrum). I’m just as happy engaging in caregiving activities and having cuddles as I am devolving into degenerate sexual activity… I’m pretty meticulous with planning play with partners so there are no unwelcome surprises. I don’t want to jump into any sort of dynamic in a rush and you can probably expect some little research/writing tasks before we start to ease into anything (and you are free to ask the same of me). I’m interested in exploring some form of power exchange but it’s going to take a lot of time and trust for both parties before that discussion even begins.  I have no desire to switch and can’t see it being a thing for me in the future.

As to who I’m looking for… I don’t really have a ‘type’. Ideally you should be shorter than me (not difficult), of a reasonably healthy weight or working towards it. I value curiosity above most, if not all, traits in someone, as well as the ability to maintain a conversation (not necessarily lead it) and keeping an open mind. Turn offs are the inability to see issues from another’s perspective and slow walkers. I appreciate everyone has their struggles, baggage, good and bad days but I’m not a therapist and I don’t want to deal with anyone with untreated/severe mental health issues. Consistency of communication is a must; I appreciate that real life gets in the way from time to time and I will let you know if I’m going to be unavailable for more than a few hours; I won’t leave you hanging on read and I would like that to be reciprocated. With regards to location; I’m looking for Little Miss Right, not Little Miss Right Now and can do the distance thing but for personal and professional reasons I can’t move so you should ultimately be willing to relocate to me. I don’t have an age range in mind but if I’m old enough to be your actual dad by all means drop me a message but you’re really going to have to have something about you for us to click.

Thank you for listening to my TED talk, if you’re still here then you can take yesterday off. If you’re interested in what you’ve read then feel free to message me or start a chat and tell me a bit about yourself; as an icebreaker if you want to tell me two truths and a lie and try and guess mine…

-I’ve lived in an Arabian Palace

-I’ve worked in the Arctic circle

-I’ve climbed the tallest mountain in Malaysia