Hi there! It's been a while since I've written one of these, and with every locktober reminder I see I can't help but feel a little down as I gaze at others success and fantasies. So, here we can change that!

Physically: I'm 6ft tall, white (pale) short hair (it's leaving) and a short beard with glasses (the face is cute trust bb) overall my body is giving Jack Black 2008

Mentally: whoo boy. Day to day, I am very laid back. A home body, and very chill. Long term, I have some issues from my childhood. Lots of abandonment issues, some abuse issues, some other trauma response related issues. I've found that while not a big burden on me, it is important to bring it up as my home life, upbringing, and most of my life until now has been a rollercoaster of drama, and dysfunction. - this is not a brag in any way and it's not a contest. I really dislike where I come from, and I've structured my life to be safe and quiet away from the B.S. and I refuse to open the door when it knocks.

So, who am I, then? I wake up with a smile on my face, and usually a few seconds after waking up I immediately have a beat in my head. It might be a song I heard on a reel, commercial, or anything. I take every day as a new one, and I try to be warm and inviting. As I've grown I've made a lot of choices. I've moved a lot, I have actually relocated to be with someone I met on here years ago! This is one of many stories I have.

Currently single, never married, and no kids. I find myself working, coming home, and chatting with friends.

I am a big artistic person, and creative freedom is important to me. I am not very expressive about my drawings, and most of them nobody has ever seen, but it brings ME happiness and I have enjoyed all of my art endeavors.

So, why am I posting here? Another great question, thank you OP. I don't know the exact moment it all began. I was a teenager. Browsing anything and everything from Sybian machines, to the taboo "cum eating" oooooooo. It wasn't long before I took a dive into "forced" orgasms, being more enamored by EVERYTHING. From the mental and physical release, to the escape from ego, the tight connection between Caretaker and Subjectee. I still am very excited when I see a meme or reference to anything regarding BDSM. Hoods, leather, harnesses, I even follow a social media platform that does "therapy shabari". I really enjoy this part of life, and it won't ever change for me. I will absolutely make a point to not look at pornography involving Dominant Males. I don't know EXACTLY why, but a very big portion of that distain is from my childhood. No, I wasn't exposed to floppy dicks and crops. I just was mistreated by a lot of the adults in my life who I was supposed to look up to. It sucked, and still sucks.

Sooooooo! When I discovered the wonderfully wicked world of Female Domination and everything THAT entailed I was doubly hooked. Chastity? 🥵 Facesitting? 🥵 Service submission?? 🥵

Fast forward all my years. Fetlife, munches, meetings, first dates, awkward encounters. It's all so much to tell, and with not much to show.

I have had lots of play time with others, and my experiences have varied a lot. From feeling like I was a dominant playing the part of a submissive, to truly feeling scared and that I was in over my head. I'm now in a place where I've seen most of both worlds with a few exceptions. I'd still like to go to a big Fet/Kink convention. Not for any particular reason other than to see people enjoying what I've tried to enjoy all these years.

So, I'll leave you with a short list of good and bad, and a list of sexual preferences and you can decide if this is something you want in your life. I truly believe that aside from my monotone post here, I have LOTS of life and color to offer. I am a big tree waiting to be nourished and brought to fulfillment. I just want someone who will be there. Maybe not every hour of every day. But someone who can see this is more than the "right now".

The good- I work full time. I have my own life. My own car. No debt. I try to be a good person, and do good for those around me.

The bad- I don't own a home. I don't have a college degree (we can talk about this) and I have a bit of self doubt going on inside here.

I will say that my primary interests regarding femdom are, that I have a job to do. I want my partner, owner, to feel RELIEVED and not burdened by me. I want to help alleviate any workload or stress that I can. Dishes, laundry, floors, car maintenance, etc.

I am in Minnesota, I am open to most anyone in the USA. I am open to relocating in due time, and I am available for selfies and phone calls 😊

I do hope you send me a message, we can talk about Halloween movies!