Are you an abandoned kitten or maybe a puppy lost in the rain without Owner? I'm here searching in most likely the wrong place, but I want to find my submissive, my pet, my best friend and my girlfriend. Someone to talk to about the most nonsensical topics at 1 am while we both know we should be sleeping because we have to work in the morning. Someone who will want to message me with whatever random thing she just come across while walking to work.

Over the years I've learnt that having a good connection is the most important part, specially since I'm looking for something long term (forever would be the ideal!), so with that in mind I'm going to try to keep the kink to a minimum.

First a little about me:

• I'm 33 but I've always been told I have the soul of an old man.
• Single and 100% monogamous.
• Don't do drugs, smoke or any of that. I'd be happy to share a drink, although I'd probably enjoy a coffee more.
• Not exactly fit but not that overweight either, I'm 178 cm and 85 kg.
• I'd love to go hiking together.
• I enjoy baking, cooking not so much but I'm alright. I make a pretty good homemade pizza if I say so myself.
• Used to do some woodworking as a hobby, but haven't been able to since I moved here. I hope to get back to this again at some point in life, it was surprisingly useful and I enjoy making and fixing stuff myself. Hopefully some day I'll make my own bdsm furniture =P
• I'm very introverted (not shy) and a homebody, I still enjoy going out and such but I'd rather spend more time on average at home.
• I'm an engineer, which is both my profession and one of my hobbies.
• I love learning new things, which applies to bdsm as well. I'm not afraid of not knowing something, but if I do then I'll make it my personal goal to research and learn as much as I can about it.
• Finally, before this gets too long, I'm a big nerd and enjoy playing video games. Not a competitive person though, so I just want to have a good laugh. It'd be amazing if we can find some to play together on pc while we talk and get to know each other. Just to name a few: Terraria (personal favourite), Ark, Stardew Valley, Valheim, etc. Although I'm happy to play other things like puzzle games or anything coop really.

So what am I looking for? I want someone I can slowly get to know and form a deep connection with. Being bdsm-compatible means nothing if we don't have other things in common and get along in the "vanilla" world, that's why I listed my interests and hobbies as well. Slightly younger than me maybe, I think around 27-34 would be ideal. I want this to eventually become a real-life thing, so I'm happy to start online but I couldn't do an LDR forever, that would only be OK if we know it's going to become a reality at some point (even if that takes a long time, that's fine). I'm in the Cambridgeshire area.

I would prefer the D/s dynamic to extend a bit beyond the bedroom, but this is not mandatory. I also understand that if it does happen that it's something that takes a long time, we need to develop trust and affection first, no one expects you to submit from the start, the same way no one expects me to dominate you without knowing you and actually caring about you first. I am a very patient person and I'm happy to take things slow and get to know each other (that's where the talks and video games come into play!).

Why a sub/pet? I very much like the idea of owning someone, them being my property, with all the responsibilities that this entails like making my pet feel safe and cherished and happy. I am a very stable person mentally, you won't see me losing my cool or becoming depressed or anything like that, so I believe I would be a good Owner. I enjoy these aspects from the Ddlg dynamic as well, but I'm not into the whole age-play side, and I dislike being called Daddy. Also, I love cats! Lets share cat pictures and memes!

Did you have a bad day at work? Put on your kitten ears and tail and I'll pet you until you forget. Or maybe I'll tie you up comfortably and we'll watch a movie together (this is a personal silly little fantasy of mine), or we play a game together, or you watch me go through that one scary game you don't like playing yourself. Yes, the non-sexual side of BDSM is very important to me, possibly even more important. I will also put my entire focus on just you, so even if you consider yourself quite needy, that's probably even better cause I like needy and clingy. I promise that I won't take long to reply, as long as I can expect more or less the same in return. Actually, if you're clingy and needy then step to the front cause that's what I'm after!

Anyway, to make things short, this would be my main list of kinks: bondage (I love bondage and I hope to learn shibari some day when I have a partner, I want to tie you up in every possible position with any material we can find), orgasm control/denial, petplay, protocol/rules. And more, but those are the main ones. Limits: asphyxiation, scat/pee, needles, permanent marks/drawing blood. There's probably more, but this is something we should talk about and not just limit ourselves to a few lines in a post.

If you've made it to the end, then congratulations! I promise I don't write this much in normal chat (unless you also write a lot, then we'll end up exchanging full blown letters lol), but I just can't help myself. If you want to message me, you obviously don't need to write as much, but put a bit more effort than "Hi" and please mention your age so I can at least know you read this =)