Tired of being treated like a kink dispenser? Worried that femdom so often still centres male pleasure? Want a relationship with a sub where you're both real, complex and flawed people and you're permitted to be as such? Then perhaps I can help!

What I offer: All my biggest kinks flow from a desire for my partner's pleasure and happiness, with maybe a little selfish desire for them to mockingly rub that in, as a treat. I'm a nerdy golden-retriever type, keen for a mistress to worship and serve, but also do geeky and/or fun vanilla things with, have deep discussions with, and shop for new furniture together. Oh, and the 'and serve' bit totally includes me doing the dishes and hoovering! I like doing nice things, and learning about a partner to petter personalise gifts, treats, dates, etc. I'm generally a good conversationalist when I'm comfortable, but can be a bit awkward at the beginning. More keen on giving oral than receiving, and generally decentering my physical pleasure in favour of yours. The thought of meeting and supporting a partner's needs in a real everyday sense makes me feel excited. :-)

About me: Outside of kink, I work for a cinema, and in my free time, I do creative sci fi things (I paint miniatures, write stories, play computer games, etc). Intellectual interests include, politics, morality/ethics, psychology, sociology, and other aspects of human nature. I have a broad taste in music, but metal is my favourite. Physically, I'm sad to say that I am big, burly, and masculine, despite the fashion for petite and girly malesubs and my own gender identity. I *am* the Neurospicy icon that Tiktok warned you about (I assume, I'm not on Tiktok, I have literal ADHD that I don't need to be made worse, lol)

Relationship criteria/boundaries: My tastes are pretty broad, . My age range is imprecise, but tends to be about 7 above, 10 below (I can go older and younger for brief relationships), with the closer to mine the better. A basic level of emotional maturity and expectations of the realities of life is a must. Hard limits are scat, blood, men, involving other parties without their consent, people who remind me too much of my mother, and Tories. I also work hard to improve myself, including my physical health (This is not a part of my personality per se, just a goal), so people who feel like that's a waste of time or would otherwise reinforce my bad habits would not be good for me! Looks, race, nationality etc, not really a concern, but bonus points if you're gothically inclined. Long distance is OK temporarily, but I need something personal and touch-based in the long run - the sooner we're able to go for a coffee the better (I have been single and let down too many times to play games these days)! For non-monogamy, I could never be just one in a harem, or polycule, etc, but if we're in a committed FLR and you want to sleep with other people, I'm happy with that (I have a cuckolding kink, that isn't mandatory). :-)

If any of that sounds like your sort of thing, message me with what you'd like from me, what your interests are, what tickled your fancy in this post, what kinks you want to undertake with me, and anything else you'd like to know about me! I don't bite! (But you can, if you like. ;-) )