Hi, I’m a soft Dom (specialize in caregiving and strong paternal role) that can also be a hard dom if needed (generally don’t like controlling others, prefer giving advice and letting one choose for themself).

I'm a husband/father, so I don’t have a lot of time for throwaway acquaintanceships, so I’m only interested in a more long term, serious relationship with one other person. I may be poly, but I max out at 2 people and have no desire for more than that.

I don’t have many interests in life, so figured I could list them so you’d know more about me.

My interests:

-Partner(s): At the top of the list in pretty much every thought I have is how my actions/words will affect the one(s) that I’m with. I’m an all-or-nothing type, so once someone is in my worldview, they are kept in mind with everything that I think and do. 

-Personality Theory: I’m creating a personality system that I hope to use for creating novels and for psychological understanding on personal levels. I’ll probably talk a whole bunch about it, and would really want to know someone’s mind inside and out since figuring personalities out is my goal that preoccupies a lot of my headspace. It would be nice to finally finish it and move on to the next thing.

-Save the world: This is always been my lofty, yet obtainable, goal that I’ve had since I was young. I don’t mean superhero-wise, but rather help increase humanity’s survival by introducing something useful that propels us a bit further. I’m hoping it’s a working and useful personality system because I’ve dumped a lot of time into that and it would be kind of disappointing if that fell through.

-Cg/l: I’ve always liked the dynamic and am pretty much a caregiver 24/7 as it is. I like being the parental rolemodel, though, admittedly, I’m not great at nurturing on an emotional level. I’ll be a shoulder to cry on and always there to lift you up, but tend to have difficulties soothing emotional aches and pains as I rarely have them myself. Oh, and also helping people get some rest. I’ve got a calming aura that makes napping or sleeping like a rock an easy thing to do when I’m around.

-Roleplay: My last, and least important I suppose, interest is in things having to do with roleplay. From roleplaying games like TTRPGs to writing roleplay oriented stories and novels, I like playing make-believe in an imaginative setting. It’s something that’s fun for me and one of the few ways I let myself relax. Generally, the lowest priority is taking care of myself, so I’ve learned to consciously let others help me have some fun from time to time. As long as no one needs me for anything important, that is.

I’m looking for someone around my age (give or take 5 years) that is fine with me being a husband and father while being interested in something long term. Getting to know each other as friends and seeing if we click would be ideal as I’m not one to jump into any other dynamic without knowing a person well. Either chat or message is fine, but tell me some things you would like me to know about you when you say hi.