Hello! 👋

About me

I’ll start with a little about me. I'm a good conversationalist, well educated, introspective, ambitious and successful in my career, physically attractive, and emotionally intelligent. If this all sounds very immodest, I promise that I don’t usually go around bragging about myself! I work in tech, and when I’m not working (work-life balance is important to me), I enjoy playing squash, exploring new restaurants and wine bars, spending time with friends, and walking my dog. Physically, I’m 6ft, slender and in good shape, with brown hair and stubble, and hazel eyes.

I’m married (so please be OK with that) and I’m generally happy and fulfilled in life. My kinks and sexuality developed a lot during the course of my relationship and, despite talking about it openly, I can’t explore as much as I’d like in my marriage. Reddit, and the people I meet here, are my outlet for exploring and indulging in kink with like-minded people.

Kink stuff

My biggest and most enduring kink is orgasm denial. I love my orgasms being out of my control, and not knowing when the next release might come. I adore the feeling of all the pent-up arousal with its mind-altering qualities. After a few days of denial, I suddenly find myself more open-minded than ever to different kinds of experiences and stimulation, almost as though my mind and body crave something, anything in the absence of orgasmic release. 

From playing around with denial on my own, I’ve discovered many other kinks that I enjoy. Anal play, spit, dildo play, and pain play (clamps, etc) just to name a few. I’m flexible in terms of the kinks and activities we include, as long as orgasm denial is at the centre. 

I love the idea of a dynamic that’s unfair, slightly unreasonable, and where my partner really knows what she wants and holds me accountable for following through on my promises and her requests. I don’t want this only to be about what turns me on, I also want to do my best to make sure that you also get a lot from the experience and that we do plenty of things that turn you on and make you excited. 

About you

I’m looking for someone smart, articulate, and open-minded who wants a connection equally as much as some kinky play. For me, the ideal dynamic would be one where we communicate frequently, and mix in conversations about topics that interest us, what’s going on with our lives, as well as some hot orgasm denial play that pushes both of our buttons. Physically, I find many different types of women attractive, but a common theme is that I prefer slender/petite/fit builds and for you to be height/weight proportionate. 

Let’s talk!

I’m in the UK, so something similar in terms of timezone would be best, but east coast timezones can also work. I prefer something long-term, where we both have a reasonable amount of time to communicate at least once daily. Real life comes first, and so it’s also important that we are understanding of one another’s time and bandwidth. As long as this post is still up, I’m still open to messages.

Looking forward to meeting you x