Hi! First, I recognize that this is a long post! I would rather put as much about what I am looking for in here instead of wasting time figuring this stuff out in small talk.

In short, I am seeking interactions rooted in kink, mutual respect, and possibly something deeper. I am practicing intentional dating and trying to connect with people on a romantic and sexual level. Kink is not everything to me - I am also on vanilla dating apps and most of my relationships have been vanilla. However, it would be wonderful to find someone that I can freely express my kink with (and indulge theirs as well!).

I have a rather extreme “scat” kink of being aroused and engaging in sexual activity related to human waste. You can click on my profile and see the kinds of communities that I engage in. If this is not your thing, I understand. This has something that has been part of my life for a long time and is not something I feel any sense of shame about. That being said, I recognize that I am in a minority and most people don’t have kinks involving “bathroom” play. Totally fine!

I would like to think that I am open-minded and am genuinely interested in my partner’s kinks as well. Frankly, I think it is really exciting to learn about how to indulge a partner and join them in their depravity. I am open to most kinks and am at least willing to discuss kinks with a partner. If we line up on some things, great! I am more interested in a partner who is willing to engage and support one another on a sexual level. Just having a partner that I could be open about would be exhilarating. I want someone who recognizes that kink is just part of life. It is important - way more important than society treats it - but just one part. That being said, let’s get really, really messy together, yes? Whatever you are into - share it. I want to know. Little to no limits here.

About Me:

I am currently separated and nearing the end of my divorce. I have a career that I am very engaged in and that brings me a lot of joy. However, I have the type of job that makes it difficult to relocate (we can discuss details if you’d like). That being said, I live near a big east coast city, so civilization is not far. I would like to engage with someone with the eventual goal of meeting in person.

Social life… I’m deeply committed to my family, who are local, and my close friends who’ve been in my life since childhood. Stability and close connections are important to me, and I’m looking for someone who shares similar values.

What I’m Looking For:

I’m looking for a kind, compassionate partner who values emotional openness and direct communication. Someone who can handle challenges with reflection and a calm approach, but what’s most important to me is that we can talk through any issues together, rather than avoiding them.

You probably prefer smaller gatherings and find comfort in quiet, meaningful moments. You’re someone who enjoys spending time outdoors—whether it’s going for evening walks, exploring a park, or hiking. You care about health, and while you’re not into extreme fitness routines, you enjoy cooking healthy meals or planning meals together that reflect a balanced lifestyle. I appreciate those small, shared activities, as I believe they can be both romantic and meaningful.

Romance is important to you, not just in the surface sense but in the way you fully commit to the relationship. You’re not just looking for someone to support your lifestyle; you embrace the joy and depth that comes from a romantic bond—emotionally, physically, and intellectually. You’re invested in the fine details that make a relationship truly special, and you’re not afraid to embrace the vulnerability and beauty of a deep connection.

I hope you’re intellectually curious, open to engaging in discussions about art, culture, and learning about the world. I value a partner who challenges me to be more understanding and tolerant of different perspectives and societal differences. We don’t have to agree on everything, but I’m looking for someone who helps me grow and see the world in new ways.

You’re self-sufficient and have your own career path or personal ambitions, but you also understand that work is just one part of life. You believe that family and relationships are the most important things, and together, we can remind each other to prioritize what really matters. You’re someone who is warm and kind.

You’re likely not a heavy drinker, and it would be great if you share my interest in cannabis (though it’s not a dealbreaker if you don’t). What’s most important is that we find ways to enjoy life together and create a stable, fulfilling relationship built on mutual respect, shared experiences, and a deep emotional connection.

What’s Next:

I value directness and appreciate when someone takes the initiative. If you're interested in what I’ve shared, don’t hesitate to reach out—I’m looking for a partner who’s ready to engage in deeper conversations from the start. Small talk is fine, but I’d much rather skip to the things that matter, like understanding each other’s values and what we’re both seeking in a relationship. Once that’s clear, the lighter moments will come naturally.

I’m not looking for a platonic connection—I’ve built strong friendships already. What I want is something romantic, fulfilling, and deeply affectionate. You don’t need to have a long history of relationships, but knowing what you want and being open to building something meaningful together is important to me. If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you.