Hi r/Bdsmpersonals

I’m 28, a self employed based in Berlin. I’m here because, while my professional life is intense and requires me to stay on top of things, I’m looking for something entirely different in my personal life—something that allows me to give up control and focus on someone else's needs and desires.

About Me: - Age/Location: 28, Berlin, Germany (CET timezone) - Appearance: I’m 182cm tall, slim (70kg). I’m not looking to share face pictures early on, but I’m open to it once there’s trust. - Personality: In everyday life, I’m socially dominant—the kind of guy you wouldn’t expect to be here. I’m successful in what I do, and most people see me as driven and confident. But in this space, I’m looking for something more nuanced: a dynamic that lets me give up control and be led.

Outside of work, I hit the gym regularly (though I wouldn’t mind some extra motivation), and I’m always working on personal growth. I’d like to build a connection that allows you to take control, especially in areas like fitness, personal development, or even how I navigate certain social situations. The idea of gradually ramping up that control as we build trust is something that really appeals to me.

What I’m Looking For: I’m looking for a domme who’s firm but caring, someone who genuinely enjoys bringing out the best in their sub but isn’t afraid to be strict when necessary. I’m not here for a checklist of kinks—I’m far more interested in the power dynamic itself. For me, it’s about the subtlety of control and how that can extend beyond the bedroom. Whether it’s helping me stay on top of my gym routine, pushing me in personal development, or guiding me in social interactions, I want to be challenged.

That said, I’m experienced enough to know that trust is everything in a D/s dynamic. I believe in starting slow and letting things develop naturally, with you defining what works for both of us as we go.

• Fitness: If you’re someone who enjoys fitness and could push me to work harder, that’s a big plus.
• Routine: I’m open to a structured routine if that’s something you’d want to implement over time.
• Control: Mental and emotional control is what I’m most drawn to. I’m open to micromanagement, but I’m also aware that this is something that needs to evolve as trust deepens.

Experience & Boundaries: I’ve had experience in D/s relationships, so I know this isn’t something that happens overnight. Building a solid dynamic takes time, communication, and effort from both sides. I’m looking for something genuine, where we both invest in making the dynamic work.

• Contact: For now, Reddit PMs are the best way to reach me. I’m open to messaging apps or voice calls once we’re more comfortable.
• Limits: No public/illegal play, scat, vomit, blood, animals, or lasting marks. Beyond that, I’m pretty flexible and believe that boundaries are best discussed as we go.

If you’re a dom(me) who’s interested in the mental and emotional aspects of control, and not just ticking boxes on a kink list, then I’d love to hear from you. Let’s see where this can go.