Hi! I am a 26yo FtM transgender man, and I’m looking for a dom that likes to focus on the psychological side of bdsm and wants to establish a more casual (not TPE or 24/7) power dynamic. Ideally, we would be able to establish something that fits in well to both of our daily lives. While I am looking for the focus to be on the mental aspects and in creating certain emotions and mental states, I am not looking for something theoretical and would like physical actions or tasks to be included.

For me, the most important part of a bdsm connection is to create a relationship in which I feel submissive and controlled by my partner. I like to indulge my submissive side by pleasing my dom and being put in my place below them, and I need a dom that can inspire my desire to submit to them. I have found that I generally respond best to confident doms who know they deserve my submission and are able and willing to project that through our conversations. I work well with both soft doms and more rough or sadistic doms, and am open to various kinks or scenarios, though I do specifically enjoy when there are parts of the dynamic that are not necessarily sexual. The aspect of the dynamic that I am looking for is the mental power exchange that we establish - I am flexible on the exact methods by which we do that.

So, I have stated a lot about what I am looking for in a nebulous way, but what does that actually look like? As I mentioned, I am more flexible on the specifics, but for an online situation or chats, some potential things that could be included in the dynamic are below. I don’t require any of these in particular, but hope this can give a better idea of what I am looking for overall.

• Chats or role play of sexy scenarios or what-ifs

• Speech / texting restrictions

• Standing rules that I am expected to follow at all times, or short term rules enforced during specific time periods

• Causal degradation / bullying / name calling during conversations to reinforce a feeling of inferiority

• Requirements for what I should be thinking about or doing while touching myself

• Enforcing certain schedules

• Small sexual or non-sexual tasks to complete to please you

• Emotional sadism play sessions (with aftercare)

• If trust is established, loaning me out to other people in my area for sex or play according to your specifications

In regards to tasks and rules, I am not looking for a kink dispenser to tell me to do just the specific things I already like, nor am I looking to be a personalized porn dispenser where the primary aspect of the dynamic is for me to send sexual photos or videos.

For meeting up in person, I am open to various scenes, including impact play, light bondage, wax, sexual use, domestic service, role play, and more! If you are in the area and want to meet, let’s chat through what that would look like.

Please send me a chat or a DM if you are interested and think we might be compatible. Thanks for reading!