I’m looking for a woman who is ambitious, self-aware, and driven—but also craves a deep connection that allows her to relinquish control in the right hands (only in the bedroom; I promise I have zero desire to micromanage your life 🙂). You should be warm, nurturing, and complex—more than what meets the eye. You’re successful in your own right and seek a partner who meets you where you are while also pushing you to explore deeper levels of intimacy, trust, and pleasure.

You’re in your 30s, attractive (inside and out), lead an active lifestyle, and are secure and stable in every sense. You’re kind, empathetic, and emotionally intelligent, carrying the weight of past experiences with grace. You believe in building a solid foundation before diving into serious commitments and desire to be seen and understood beneath the surface. You’re open to a partnership that could grow into something more meaningful—perhaps even a family.

As for me, I still tie my shoes using the two bunny ears method (no shame whatsoever), and I’ve built a life that’s secure in all the important ways: I’m overeducated, financially stable, fiercely independent, and emotionally open (sometimes even before my morning coffee). I have a warm, inviting home and love hosting elaborate, thoughtful get-togethers. My life balances simple pleasures and indulgences, I enjoy traveling the world, playing sports, crafting unforgettable meals, live music, DIY projects, and have more hobbies than I have time for.

I’m attractive, athletic, and put care into my appearance. I’m progressive, non-religious, and unapologetically feminist. Emotional intelligence, empathy, and a sharp wit are my strengths, and I’ve mastered the art of balancing depth with playfulness.

I’m fortunate to have a strong support system filled with people I love and who love me back. While I have more resources than time (fancy way of saying I’m busy), I make room for what’s important.

Regarding kinks, I’m into the classics: bondage, orgasm control (not denial), praise, impact play, choking, and a deep love for giving oral. Aftercare is essential, of course. TPE isn’t for me—I value independence and individuality too much. I’m all about building trust and exploring mutual pleasure together. Boundaries? The usual: no bodily fluids, permanent marks, age regression, or anything illegal.

If you’re in Chicagoland or open to a reasonable long-distance situation, I’d love to hear from you. Tell me about yourself—likes, interests, physical and personality description, what you’re into, and what you liked (or didn’t) about what I wrote. Feel free to ask any questions—I’m a curious man and don’t hesitate to ask my own.