What I’m looking for: Hey there, hope you’re doing well. I’m a guy from Canada, looking for someone interesting and fun to talk to and hopefully set up something longterm and intimate. I’m totally open to chatting and seeing where things go, and I’m not limiting this to people who want to set something up, people just wanting a friend or chat buddy can also reach out. I’ve been in this space for quite a few years now, and I’ve explored all kinds of roles. Two months ago, I ended things with an unstable sub who leveraged self harm against me. If you’re stable, reach out, and let’s talk, as I’d prefer not to relive all that.

A little about me: I’m a 21 year old dude from Vancouver, Canada. I’m 6’2, about 180 pounds, with semi-curly short black hair, brown eyes and a lightly tanned skin colour. I’m willing to share photos on request, though I expect a similar level of openness if you ask for that. I’m an engineering student and I tutor, though I pursue a few freelance projects. In my free time I usually hike, swim, play volleyball, play guitar, go to concerts, play games, read books primarily on history and philosophy, cook, go out with friends and do little day trips. One of my favourite interests is art and music history, and I’ve backpacked and travelled around through Europe to many places to help explore this hobby amongst others. I’m a total extrovert, dominant in and out of the bedroom and socially competent. I reinvent my style fairly often, but my primary style is a mixture of darker hues and blacks with occasional browns and pastels strewn in. I wear a lot of rings, bracelets and chains.

Why am I on here: Although finding someone in my area is always preferable, breaking the topic of kink is always one that’s fairly awkward, and it can feel exploitative coercing or introducing it to someone not in the community. In addition, I’ve had experiences before where people have tried to be with me primarily for physical or sexual reasons, and so the anonymity of a platform like this appeals to me. Distance has never been much of an issue so long as there’s some amount of dedication and time commitment.

Kinks, limits and general rules: It’s super important for me that the person I’m talking to has opinions and a personality of their own. Nothing sucks more than the apathetic empty shell of a partner, so make sure you have some idea who you are, and what your likes and dislikes are.

For me, my main likes are classified as Domination or Corruption. Slow and steady behavioural changes, forced femininity and outfit control, language/speech restrictions, forced journaling, body writing, JOI/SI, and covert teasing and texting be it in private or public, all fall into the more general control and dom aspect of me. Things like pet/owner, DDlg, master/slave and more general dom and sub dynamics all appeal to me. I’m into denial, but also forced and ruined orgasms, or just more broadly orgasm control, however at my core I direct myself With my own and partner’s pleasure in mind, and I usually stray away from sadism. Despite that, I love choking, restraints, spanking and so on. Hole training is a big kink of mine. I tend to stray away from things like violence, blood, permanent harm and so on though, as well as generally nasty things.