Hey you.

I know it's crazy out there. I know that life is crazy right now. Crisis this, economy that. Just take a few minutes to read this, if not to just calm down. If you don't like what I'm talking about, you'll at least have had a little break.

So yeah, I'm looking for a sub, because I'm a Dom. That's kind of obvious, right? What I'm going to do though, is tell you what type of dom I am. Who and how I am as a person, how that translates to what I need from being a Dom, and how that naturally also translates to what I need from a submissive.

I'm someone who believes in the things he believes in very strongly. In other words, if I believe in something, it's not a perspective I take. If I believe it, that thing is what reality is. There's a difference between thinking pineapple belongs on pizza, which I can agree with, but that's still subjective. No, I'm talking about core beliefs. If I believe something, then that's what reality is. I rarely compromise on my beliefs or thoughts. If someone can't convince me otherwise, I'll not change my mind. It's okay for people to not agree with me, but that doesn't mean the beliefs I hold aren't true for me.

So, having as much conviction in my beliefs as I do, that also bleeds into relationships. If I believe in what I believe in, then compromise rarely is an option. Compromise means I have to 'adapt' what I believe and need, so that it can work with what someone else believes. No. If it's about what I believe, then there's no compromise. Don't get me wrong, I will try to accommodate others as much as I can, but not at the cost of my self.

Now, judging from experience, the average person wants an 'equal' relationship. I hope you can see that what I just shared, and that fact don't really mix. It becomes very impossible to have an 'equal' relationship, if I can't enforce my own beliefs and needs.

And that's, you guessed it, where BDSM comes into play.

To me, BDSM is a way to be my real me; a man with very strong convictions about what's right and wrong, good and bad, or how things 'should' be. I know that many people find BDSM to be a fun past-time, where they can act out their fantasies without having to deal with the 'real' thing, but that's not for me. I 'need' BDSM, in the sense that it allows me to be who I am. Namely, a man with strong beliefs.

That brings the story to you.

If I'm a man who has beliefs he won't compromise on, and I need BDSM as a framework for relationships where I can be that man, then where does that leave you? If what you've been reading so far tickled your fancy, I think you'll already know the answer. If it didn't interest you, this would be the right moment to stop reading. If you feel curious as to what I expect from you, obviously you're free to keep reading. I can't make you not read this ad.

If you're reading this, I'm assuming you're still here. Which means you feel some kind of attraction to what I've already written. In that case, I think you might be the submissive I'm looking for. Tell me the color of a strawberry in your first message, just so I know you've read things so far.

The kind of submissive I'm looking for, is, just like me being dominant at my core, submissive at their core. Where I need to give dominance, you want to receive dominance. Alternatively, if I give dominance, I want to receive submission. The opposite is true for you then: you want to give submission, and receive dominance.

That's the basis of what I'm looking for, really; a woman who can't help but need BDSM to escape any kind of societal or cultural pressures to be 'equal'. I'm looking for a woman who needs BDSM as much as I do, because she craves to be submissive as much I crave to be dominant.

If you're still reading, and haven't checked out because what I'm saying is obviously insane and not the spirit of BDSM, then you also understand that the level of how unequal this D/s relationship is going to be, is something you actually want in a relationship. Where I can't do without dominance, you can't do without submission. You want to be submissive to a man who puts you under that emotional pressure, and that's what makes you feel comfortable and safe. You couldn't have it any other way than letting your Dominant lead you.

So, I feel like I have the basics for what I'm looking for in a dynamic down. The question is, do you feel the same way? If you do, send me a message over the reddit chat feature, it feels less sluggish than the regular sending of messages.