I need a sub I can invest my time and energy - my reward is your submission, loyalty, and watching you evolve. I embrace the rules based structure and discipline of BDSM and expect the same in my sub. The lifestyle has allowed me to become the best version of myself - assertive, confident, driven, successful, but also nurturing when needed. My ability to connect with a sub and build deep intimacy is crucial to the experience. I've been in full recovery from PTSD/substance abuse for many years thus appreciate a psychological approach to any dynamic. Deep experience with trauma informed kink.

Me: I am physically attractive, patient yet firm, self-employed and have flexibility in travel and schedule. Vanilla interests include physical fitness, backcountry hiking, gaming, and all things history/culture/diversity and writing. I am PhD educated and a professional yet free spirited. Kink wise, I enjoy roleplay, power dynamics, DDlg, restraints/bondage, CNC, and much more. I am rarely interested in a single encounter - most of my past subs have been in training for several months, in some instances years.

You: My main requirement is serious intent. I don't have strict physical requirements only that you are reasonably attractive and take care of yourself. Preference to the self-aware, mental healthy savvy, and those that embrace BDSM as more than a kink. I require in person so have experience with this or be willing to meet in a reasonable period of time. Distance isn't an issue as I am highly mobile within the US.

Process: I have a vetting process to ensure compatibility. We will exchange pics, pleasantries, ensure we have basic alignment with rules/guidelines/goals. If its a match, we will move onto discussing in person scenes. Be willing to move to a secure communication app to establish a connection.