Hello bdsmpersonals people,

A few things right at the beginning, I am not searching for a game, I am searching for a relationship #online.

I posted this a few months ago, got a lot of good responses, but I did not find the right person so I decided to repost again.

Rules of the game: Add one point for each agreement. I think it's very unrealistic that you'll get all the points. Many of the things mentioned later are negotiable and even if you don't agree with all of them, you are still a possible partner for me if you agree in most of them.

• I am 49 years old, describe myself as an experienced empathic Dom. I don't have to be rude or loud to exude dominance.
• You are not too bratty, rather someone who gets his kicks out of pleasuring a Dom and you don't see it as misogynistic but normal that my pleasure is the focus.
• You like to be molded and your far goal is to be the perfect everything for me. You want to service and/or praise and to give me satisfaction is your goal.
• You like rules, rituals, tasks and are willing to be degraded and humiliated. You know that it's part of the D/s relationship and that doesn't mean I don't respect you as a person.
• You also want to build an emotional connection before it becomes sexual, discuss everything first before starting, see if you harmonize.
• My long term goal is a relationship that can be more intense even #online than an IRL relationship, because it is subject to such special rules, you exchange thoughts and feelings unfiltered.
• We talk openly about fantasies, dreams and wishes, you suggest things to me that we could turn into rules and in the end we both decide together what takes part in our world. That may sound a bit soft. But I see it as essential that we don't work against each other or that I put too much pressure on you.
• Your goal is to build a long term relationship which will probably (because I am looking worldwide) only take place #online for the time being. However, something IRL would also be nice once we've built a strong bond. At some time the wish to be real together should grow in both of us if it is a close and meaningful relationship.
• If it fits, you trust each other and it feels good, we will increase the pressure, tighten the corset of rules, rituals and other things so that it gives you security but does not take away your air to breathe
• If it fits, then you also want us to hear each other, the voice and things like voice messages or voice calls should also strengthen the bond for you and be important to you.
• Once a relationship is going, we have established certain things, then it should be natural for you to serve with your whole body and mind, This means we can act anonymously and safely for a very long time, even if you participate with pictures (without a face) and live out your exhibitionist streak to my excitement.
• Everything we do we discuss beforehand, talk about possible rules, rituals and tasks before we establish them. It should go at a very slow pace because we both want to enjoy it. I don't want you to be overwhelmed by the massive number of things that exist in my head. ‘My world’ encompasses so many things, it's like a house with 100 rooms in which 100 drawers of things exist.
• We will have a lot of rules that govern your day, but on the other hand won't burden your work and environment. Sexualize everyday life. I never want to ‘out’ you/us as D/s. For me, the attraction is the secrecy and that ‘they don't know’ what we do, how we live. So I'm not interested in exposing you in public either. However, it should be a 24/7 relationship in which you also perform small tasks for me in public
• My idea goes as far as TPE, rules in all areas and a lot of control, but that's something for the distant future and even if we never reach that, the relationship we have can feel complete. Optionally, everything is possible here. We decide together how much of this we establish. It shouldn't overwhelm you.
• We can talk about everyday things, watch a film together and the next moment the mood changes to a very D/s mood because I feel like it. You'll never know when I need which ‘role’ and for how long it lasts. Maybe it's just a short command or maybe it lasts for hours. You help me to be free by not only accepting my changes but also wanting this kind of control.
• You are interested in all of my fantasies, ideas and want to satisfy my needs, because you are a very submissive being. Bonus point if you find things that I did not think of but I could love. To bring up new things how I can use you.
• We should go small steps and build a strong bond over time, #online, if everything fits from both sides, IRL if possible
• If I find a partner that wants to dive into that dynamic, it should be wanted to have as much time as we can have together.
• You like to watch movies together nsfw and sfw, I think this is a great way to see each others likings through sharing music, pictures and movies too.
• The connection should be demisexual, so we should also have a lot in common and interest in everyday life things too. It should not be focused on D/s alone. Emotional connection is essential to build the D/s connection.

It was hard for me to pick a few decision-questions that would tell us if we would be a good match. But I think if you agree on most of the points, we should deepen the conversation in the chat and see if we find a similar path. I know that there are 100 more questions to be asked to see if it is really a match. But let's find out!

Thanks for playing my "Game of Ideas"! Your results are highly appreciated.

Have a great day/night/evening

Mike