I'm hoping to find a submissive who is independent and responsible in their work and daily lives, but who is calmed and comforted when giving up control, being told what to do and being taken care of. I believe that going both ways, bdsm and D/s are about taking care of each other and our most intimate and honest needs

In my experience people who seek these type of dynamics in their relationships tend to be especially open minded and comfortable being themselves. I love learning the deepest details of what turns someone on or what they fantasize about and creating that situation for them. It's fun, it's creative and it truly bonds people together and that's what I'm really looking for.

Im 40, 6'3" around 185lbs.most people think I'm like 32 and are surprised when they find out my age. I'm single, no kids, I have a good job. I love the outdoors and enjoy camping, backpacking and skiing as much as a night in with wine, a fire (if only I had a fireplace) and a good TV show, movie or music. I'm just as nerdy as I am outdoorsy. I build my own PCs, love techy gadgets, video games and a good ergonomic desk set up.

Ideally looking for something in person in the Boise area, but open to someone within a reasonable travel distance. And prefer someone aged 30-40, but definitely flexible on that, so don't hesitate to reach out.

I'm most interested in D/s dynamic that has a place outside of the bedroom as well. That doesn't have to mean 24/7 TPE, I just think it's fun when some aspects are at play even when we go to grab coffee. The fun part is figuring out what those are together.

As for a specific list of kinks, I'm into orgasm control/denial, outfit control control, sexual and non-sexual tasks and service, bondage, choking, watersports and bladder control, playful name calling, mild humiliation, edging, wearing toys out, asking permission for regular activities, protocols and behavioral guidelines. And I'm very interested in and open minded to your kinks, so if I didn't list something, tell me all about it. My only hard limits I can think of are blood, knives, scat and ddlg.

I would prefer to exchange SFW photos at some point after we've talked a bit, feel comfortable and feel like we click. Ultimately mutual attraction plays a role in any relationship or dynamic.

If you've read this far, if you're serious about finding intimacy within a kinky D/s dynamic and taking the time to develop this type of bond, if you take comfort in giving up control and take pride in your submission, send me a l chat and tell me about yourself and what you are looking for. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.