The title is precisely what I’m looking for. For as long as I can honestly remember, I've been drawn to BDSM. The thoughts and ideas have been with me since primary school - even at the age of six, I recall bondage scenarios that I wanted to make a reality.

So it is fair to say the connection to having complete control, leading an outsized power dynamic, and establishing pure helplessness isn't going dissolve. In fact, as I get older and more mature, my understanding of how to balance what I'm looking for with a professional, vanilla, adult life is supporting me in my intentions to bring it to life.

As the title describes, I am looking for a submissive (female only, sorry) who is interested in exploring an incredibly strict and extremely dark D/s dynamic. A plethora of rules would be established - ranging from how nails are kept, what's worn, orgasm control, through to sleep schedules, where you’re allowed to go, what you’re allowed to eat, and bathroom control.

To list some of the other kinks I am wanting to explore, I would love to connect with a submissive who enjoys (or is wanting to explore) degradation, humiliation, orgasm control/denial, bondage, gags, psychological/mental dominance, edging, and CNC.

It should also be said that I do have a true sadist side to me, and I am looking to indulge in that aspect - within a healthy dynamic.

There are 3-4 different ways in which true helplessness could be realised, and I am more than happy to open-up about them in a chat; but will withhold them from here.

But who's on the other side of this potent power exchange? Well, please read on.

I'm a 34M (6'1 / 185cm) who lives in Australia, and by all intents and purposes is a young, athletic, bright and positive type that you'd see at work, at a bar, even within a volunteering group. I love to read, listen to podcasts, audiobooks, understand the world and its direction, play football and workout reguarly. And so, beneath all of the extroversion, professional drive, and care for the world is an unequivicoally dark, sadistic, controlling dominant presence.

Travelling and digital work means in-person is ultimately possible too, if things progress to that.

I'd love to hear from you if the above caught your eye, and got you thinking.

Best and darkest, Hugo