Hoi,

I don't really have a strategy at the ready to lure potential prey into my lair. Then again, I also don't have a lair and I certainly hope you're not prey... Let's commence anyway. With the post. The post by Soipnas. Soipnas' post.

First of all, I am most definitely not looking for somebody to hop in and start ordering me around. All I am asking for today is to have a conversation with somebody who has similar values regarding BDSM. Everybody is different, and BDSM has become a very broad term. Therefore it is worth the time and effort to find somebody with whom a deep connection can be formed. For now, though, we can have a chat to see if we click. If so, we will talk again. If we click some more, once more we shall converse. Maybe we even click our way into a voice call. You see the pattern here? Good job. In case we don't click at all however, there's no hard feelings and we can merrily go our separate ways.

I have always known I have a big submissive side. I'd go as far as to consider it part of my personality. A part I also cannot disentangle from romantic feelings. So if I'm feeling submissive towards you, I am more than likely head over heels too. I would not expect you to be similarly unable to separate your dominant and romantic feelings, but I want to stress that I am looking fulfillment for both of these aspects. I want a romantic and dominant partner.

Regarding 'styles', I don't want us to play parts. I want us to be ourselves. This also means I don't appreciate an 'aggressive' dominating style. Don't get me wrong, I like it pretty kinky and out there, but I want the foundation to be trust, explicit consent, and safety. I don't want to listen do you because you 'make me', I want to listen to you because I genuinely see it as best. As something we both want. I always have trouble expressing these preferences and am certainly open to having conversations about this for more clarity.

I am a tall and big woman. The height I can't change, the fat I can. However, I don't want you to respond if you cannot see yourself being attracted to a big woman. I would understand. For my own preferences lookswise, I do have to admit that I prefer taller men. Bodytype doesn't really matter to me. In the end all of this is superficial, but with openess and honesty in mind I felt the need to express the preferences anyway (and I would encourage you to do so as well).

Please give me a little bit of an introduction if you do decide to send me a message. I do ask you to not include a full list of kinks, as I prefer to build a psychological connection before diving into the physical kinks. This ended up to be a lot more rambly than I anticipated, but it is what it is.