Okay, so I have been really struggling to get over my ex. I'm a trans woman, and I really like switching a lot, and I love to be vers. For a little context, I'm from Colombia, so the only straight men I have seen that are comfortable with what I like are the ones on Grindr (help). The rest are mostly just chasers and guys who just want casual things. I feel like I’m gonna be alone, and I’m afraid I’m not gonna find someone who likes the same things as me.

It's like I have this really weird and a little magical mentality of wanting to flipfuck and switch with someone until we become one. I just love to be vers so much, and I mostly like domming, but I wanna sub too. I love to top/bottom in a 60-70/40-30 ratio, or just depending on the month or week lol, and I really like to dom/sub in a 70/30 ratio. But I’m just really losing hope of finding someone who is into the same things as me.

(My ex didn’t communicate that he wasn’t feeling comfortable with the roles that we had, and now I’m traumatized too. I’m passing through a really hard dom drop, and well, with me, he was mostly bottom, but it seems that he was a vers-top before our relationship, and he didn’t communicate that to me. So obviously, I thought he was okay with receiving more than giving, and at the top of all of that, he told me he didn’t really like BDSM and he was just doing it to be with me? 💀)

But for a partner, I can change to be more of a bottom and a sub, receiving more than giving, but I like to still be switch and vers. That has been a problem for finding a serious, good, and interesting partner throughout my whole life.

So my question is: Do any GOOD men who are like this exist lol? I don’t wanna be an experiment, neither a fetish or a secret... I just want a switchy, kinky relationship with someone I can love and please (and for them to please me too lol).