44/m looking for someone intelligent, funny, kinky, creative, and submissive to turn my world upside down in the best way. Outside of playing, it is essential that you are your own independent person.

I don't consider myself poly. I do however have a relationship with my best friend that includes us currently being lovers in a D/s relationship, which may change in the future. She is married to someone else, which will not change. Ideally we'd all be friends (like actually friends not sex) though I imagine that may take some time. We can talk more about this.

Ideally looking for long term only, but I am not interested in forcing things to be what they are not.

Communication and honesty are key. My main kink is intimacy. And maybe sadism lol.

I can be very dominant and rough. I can also be sweet and loving. Cuddling is amazing. Consent is everything. Hard limits always respected. Soft limits might be pushed as we get comfortable with each other. Aftercare is essential for everyone.

Interested in most forms of gender expression. I lean towards the femme or the androgynous more than the traditionally masculine (I got that covered). Queer love is beautiful. Open to all races/ethnicities.

No fascists. No active military. No law enforcement. ACAB. If you do not believe in personal autonomy then fuck right off.

18 obviously, really more like 30 at a minimum, because lol at you kids thinking you're ready for this. Probably not looking for anyone significantly older than me.

Not into intentional shit play, diapers, any form of financial play, blackmail or other illegal activities, age regression, or mommies.

Not really into rules and punishments. I'll beat your ass just because we both want to. 

Probably either into or at least willing to talk about nearly everything else. 

Submissive does not mean passive. If you can't generally hold up your end then I am not interested.

Major bonus points if you love to eat ass, worship cock, and have masochisitic tendencies (specifically impact play, slapping, punching, bruises. I like to use my hands). If you are not into some or all of those, don't let that stop you if you think we might otherwise get along.

Couples considered if you're something special together.

Try treating me like a real person from the start and we'll get along so much better. 

Tell me what your favorite in season fruit is and what you are generally looking for in a kinky relationship.

Low effort replies (especially from blank profiles) will be ignored. I don't need a novel in your first message (unless that's your kink) but "hey" probably isn't going to get a response.

Pics required before meeting irl but that can take as long as it needs to for both of us to feel comfortable.

Looking for real life, not online only. Please be within a reasonable distance of RVA. We can figure out what that means together.  

If you are regularly into drugs other than weed or the occasional trip, please pass me by.

I'm picky. You should be too.