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I am looking for an attentive Dom to help me with accountability for sticking with a mostly established schedule.

I have ADHD and I struggle with motivation in a big way. A few years ago while serving a Dom online I accidently discovered that where I lacked motivation to change aspects of myself or to complete tasks when I was no longer the sole motivator, I was suddenly able to do things I never would have, and it was easy to find that motivation. This Dom helped me lose weight because he wanted to control my diet and so without even realizing it I began losing weight for the first time in my life and I was happy to do so. I then decided to experiment to see what else I could accomplish under the watchful eye and rule of a Dom and it became apparent that when I changed my motivation from wanting to change to wanting not to disappoint, or wanting to please, I was able to do almost anything.

I found a Dom that was willing to hold me accountable for all the things I wanted to change and suddenly my life started to turn around. I quit smoking, I lost 50lbs, I started doing yoga and light exercises, getting in 10k steps a day, I started writing more, I even moved to a new city like I always wanted to so that I could be closer to a closer to an LGBT community of which did not exist where I lived so that I could for the first time in my life get some gay friends, and get to know people in the BDSM community without it being a complete hush hush secret you only talk about online. This dynamic ended some months back due to circumstances that have nothing to do with the dynamic or each other, and he and I are still very amicable.

But without his accountability I have begun to lose my motivation again. So I am seeking someone new that would be willing to take up that mantle.

I currently have a schedule and plan that for the most part works, I just need a Dom to enforce it.

So this is how it works. I would share with you my google calendar and taskboard so you could see everything I am doing and all the tasks that I have scheduled in real time so you know when I have marked something as complete. On top of that, all tasks would require picture or video proof. Failure to accomplish tasks without a reason you find suitable would be met with punishments of your choosing as long as they do not cross set limits of which I have put below. On top of the tasks I already have we would discuss tasks that you would like to made daily rituals as well such as always saying good morning and good night, recording all bathroom breaks, reciting a nude mantra you give to me every night, wearing a butt plug for a day or three, doing a set time of anal play on mondays wednesdays and thursdays - you get the idea, I’m up for discussion on most anything you would like for me to do for you as well. And not all tasks have to be recorded, if you say you want to watch me do these things live once in a while I am happy to be the exhibitionist.

So the current tasks run from the very mundane such as remembering to brush my teeth in the morning and evening, to the more enthusiastic such as learning a new language each day, or practicing violin, or doing yoga. This would also include you getting to choose what I eat if it coincides within the boundaries of my established diet, and what I wear under my usual clothes, what I can spend money on, and so on and so forth. I very much enjoy it when the controls get very deep such as access to my home surveillance cameras and parental controls on my devices though those last types of control will require trust to develop first and they will never be given to anonymous doms. I generally do not care for anonymous Doms, but if you want to only ever have superficial accountability control then I can get behind anonymity, though because I am seeking long term, I would remain on the lookout for a Dom that isn’t scared to show me His face or to actually talk to me, and Doms willing to meet in person are even better as I love to serve in person, not just sexually but domestically.

I have a strange sort of working situation. I live in Calgary AB (the closer to Calgary you are the better), but I work in Manitoba. ¾’s of the year I spend out at work on various work sites, literally sleeping at those work sites the entire time surrounded by hundreds of other workers. This slightly limits what I can do but not by a lot. I have my own room, my own bathroom, in a dorm. I need to be quiet, not whisper quiet, just not “moan like the &@# bitch you know you are” loud. My general rotation for work is 4 week in where I do not get a single day off, no weekends, no holidays, zero days off, and i work from 6 am to 6 pm every day, then i go home for 2 or 3 weeks where currently I have gotten a job with UberEats so that I can fill up some free time since I don’t know anyone in this new city so i have nothing to do, and also so that I can get to know the city. That job is work-when and for-how-long I want though.

I’m not going to go into detail about what kinks I have because they are very extensive and always evolving, the core kinks are TPE control, humiliation, ws, being locked up or locked in things (so chastity and collars and chains and cages and rubber suits and hoods, anything that locks on me that I cannot escape from it very much a turn on), degradation, being bullied, aftercare, & attention, to name a few. I am open to most kinks and I am willing to try most though I have definitely found some i just can’t get into (medical, raceplay, the AB part of AB/DL ((I don’t have an issue with diapers, in fact as a punishment they are quite fun, but I’m not going to pretend I’m a kid, just not for me)), plus some others I am sure).

I will list hard limits that really would be a waste of time trying to talk me into:

No monetary exchange. Controlling my money, giving me an allowance, all that sort of stuff is something I do very much enjoy, but if you are not helping me grow my money and instead want a piece of it, you are barking up the wrong tree. That level of control will be saved for an actual partner/Master, not an online or in person Dom. You will never get a dime of my money unless I feel like i want to gift you, like for a birthday or something. The moment i feel pressured or guilted into giving you any money, even if you are saying its for an emergency, I will cut contact with you entirely. Nothing that can sully my work relationships. I am a people leader and people expect a certain amount of decorum from me, I am not willing to do anything suspicious that would tarnish that. This means that even when home, I will not do things that could get back to my employers, so no, nothing in public that can’t be done behind a locked door such as a stall. If getting caught is a real possibility, I won’t do it. Understand that this limit is an umbrella for all the usual limits that could cause people issues such as drugs, illegal, face writing. If it can be hidden under my clothes, I am all for it though, I love being a full on slavey whorey slut hidden in plain view. Consent must be fully understood. What I mean by this is, just because someone has given consent, it does not mean that person has the wherewithal to understand what giving consent means, or what it could mean in the future. Understanding that consenting to something that could potentially traumatize if executed incorrectly is essential. So just having received consent is not enough for me. Excessive pain or gore. Don’t get me wrong, I like a bit of pain and I’ve recently discovered that I have a much higher pain tolerance than I thought I did, but I do have a limit and only I get to decide when that is. This is a limit that has a sliding boundary. One day I may be able and willing to take a lot of pain, while another day even a little is too much. No changes to my outer appearance. I am perfectly comfortable with my Dom having a weighted vote in how I cut my hair or what I am wearing, but in the end I get final say in that. Limiting my contact with other people. Whether with friends or family or even sexual encounters. I need human connection and I need to be touched. I am a bottom so locking up and not cumming when having sexual encounters is fine with me, but not being allowed to have them is not.

So please understand this would entail a lot of daily communication so disappearing without saying anything would not work for me. I would expect that my Dom would say “I am not going to be available on (specified date or date range)” so that I am not thinking I have been ghosted. I would of course always give the same courtesy back.

While this in itself would be a “business relationship”, that does not mean I am not open to exploring more if either of us are interested in doing so. This type of arrangement is only one part of my actual overall kinky lifestyle. It's a pipe dream to find someone (or multiple people) that become a life partner who I can serve and worship in a real life with the control being complete in every way. But that is just something I am open to, not something I require.

So if this interests you and you would like to know more or have questions, feel free to message me.

Thank you for taking the time to get through this novel. By doing so you have passed my first test to see if you are a Dom that would be a good fit ;) and I hope to hear from you soon!