Unfortunately, I’ve been here before. I walk this road often. It’s a relentless journey filled with dead ends, low valleys, and confusing plot twists. I’m sure you know it well. Hopefully you’ve been met with some high peaks that have wisened you well.

Because I think that’s important in a man. Wiseness. Cleverness. Sharpness. The kinds of things that only come from a long time of passionate interactions and shape your psyche forever.

The best type of masculinity is the vulnerable kind. The kind that’s outgoing, open, honest, endearing, rough, stern; a healthy blend of the good and the bad. A man who brings both safety and insecurity to a girl’s mind. That sort of intoxicating manipulation where there’s a haze of so wrong it’s right lingering thick in the air.

Ideally: you’re significantly older then me, experienced in the lifestyle, and have a decent head on your shoulders. You’re confident and charismatic. You can craft a conversation easily and without the reliance on the same bland, basic yes or no questions many resort to in the beginning. You’re not afraid to be yourself. You’re witty and can engage in fun banter. You don’t take things personally, yet can still assert and command yourself when necessary. You know how to use your words to get what you want. Emotional intelligence is extremely hot.

This is very real and is not a role play. And I expect you to feel the same. To start: this will be an online connection. If things intensify and deepen, our means of communication may as well. But I don’t intend to enter into this with any heavy expectations of meeting or video chatting over our heads. This is purely about mental and emotional connection leading to and driving a sexual dynamic. Something to fill your days and expand your mind.

I’m happiest when interacting with those who make my mind spin. The right person can send me to a place in my mind that I never want to leave. I’ve yet to find that right person to fully submit to but I’ve been close. I know you’re out there. And I’m determined to find you.

I’m a logical woman. I understand there’s no “perfect” being out there to check off every box. But I’d like to come as close as I can. I’d like to find a man with the right sort of energy, because that man holds the key to something very important to me. Something I know exists within myself and can only be unleashed and put into trusting hands.

When the chemistry is right, the results are divine. I just may lose myself entirely in you. I just may give you everything I have and then some. I just may become everything you dream of.

I’m seeking a slow burn with a mature gentleman who knows his power lies within his words. A man who can see the person in me first but wants to slowly help me uncover the slut.

That means you’re tactful in your approach. You’re keen on the fact that establishing a vanilla foundation is more important than anything whilst simultaneously aware of how to be tantalizing and drip the kink in layer by layer as the conversation deepens.

The right man for me will prioritize forming a strong connection and gaining each other’s trust. As time goes on we should slowly gain insight on how to coerce, manipulate, tease, humiliate, praise, degrade, punish, teach, reward, etc each other in our respective roles.

Kinks: sapiosexuality, orgasm control and denial, TPE, free use, tasks, light mostly verbal degradation/humiliation, psychological bdsm, teasing, misogyny, mind games, power dynamics, ddlg, age gaps, emotional masochism, grooming, gender roles

Limits: blood, scat, animals, heavy abuse