While I am open to more casual connections (No ONS or online only) my primary focus in this post is on a long term romantic relationship with a power exchange dynamic. Iāll put the logistics up front to get them out of the way. Physical touch is my primary love language so I would prefer a partner who wants to move in together eventually (potentially get married). Realistically I recognize that a period of getting to know each other online before meeting up is often necessary. I believe in taking things slowly to ensure compatibility and build trust. I prefer partners who have experience communicating directly and are able to set and maintain healthy boundaries.
I do have preferences with regard to play and power exchange dynamics, but I am also very eclectic and am open to a wide range. I believe in letting a dynamic grow organically based on mutual interests. I donāt want to fit anyone into a mold I have. In my experience being open to the possibilities has created the opportunity for some truly inspired connections.
Guardrails:
I believe in creating an environment where risk awareness, consent, and communication are the priority. I use RACK, PRICK, and FRIES consent as guidelines for how to negotiate, play, and debrief. I use inclusive negotiations and no means no unless we explicitly agree otherwise. I am human and I do make mistakes. I prioritize taking responsibility when I make a mistake over unrealistic expectations of perfection. Basically āCall me out if I mess up.ā
Activities I am interested in:
In terms of in person play I have extensive experience with a wide range of physical, psychological, and combined play. From light impact play to heavy interrogation scenes. I enjoy CNC, orgasm play, bondage, as well as nearly everything else on the list. I could list my interests, but itās easier to simply say that I probably enjoy everything you enjoy.
Activities I am not interested in:
Iām not interested in involving people who have not or cannot consent. That means public play, children, etc. Iām hesitant to even do covert public play that fetishizes non-consenting individuals. I am not interested in online role-play. Please donāt ask me to endlessly describe what I am going to do to you.
Dynamics I am interested in:
The dynamics that I have enjoyed the most tend toward the more intense. Relationships that center unconditional love, 24/7, as well as more exotic ones. No matter what the dynamic we build itās important to find balance to create sustainability. For example a dynamic based on humiliation isnāt sustainable without reassurance and positive feedback. Looking for long term means finding ways to keep everyone enjoying it.
Dynamics I am not interested in:
The biggest concern for me when it comes to dynamics is mental health. I am not interested in relationships that jeopardize my partnerās mental health. While I am open to some pretty extreme dynamics I have to know that you arenāt using it as a form of self harm or to escape accountability. Iām also not interested in jumping into a dynamic within the first month of communicating. Thatās a red flag to me that you donāt take me or the dynamic seriously.
Stats:
A little about me. Iām 5ā11ā with a bit of a Dad bod. I am playful and affectionate. Even my sadism is empathic. I have done BDSM professionally in movies for almost two decades. I am a kink/non-monogamy coach. I am working on entering a program to become a therapist. I enjoy cooking, writing (mostly dark erotica), kayaking, watching TV/Movies, and spending quality time with the special people in my life. Politically I am very left leaning. I am religiously agnostic (leaning on atheism).
Disclaimer:
I am not interested in wasting each otherās time. While physical attraction isnāt the only important compatibility test, it is a big one so I prefer to exchange g-rated pictures earlier on. I have learned taking things slow is best so I wonāt flirt right away, but I do feel itās important to discuss more formally what we are looking for. I know Iāve said a lot here, but I hope Iāve expressed how eclectic my tastes are. So please feel free to get in touch even if you arenāt sure we are perfectly matched.
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