It's simple really, if the aim is mutual pleasure and having a sub want to keep coming back to you everyday. Because they want it, not because they don't think there's anyone better or because they don't think they are worthy of it. A good dom uses aftercare and praise, treats his subs like a queen or a princess. Because that's what allows your mind to slip into that special space...

That space? Is actually a form of transe or hypnotic state, albeit minor compared to what levels there are to reach with a transe, and it is typically once you enter transe that you climax.

Once relaxation in the mind allows muscles to corral their tensions, you'll feel your body become truly receptive, on an almost spiritual and reverberating new found energy.

Many people don't usually realize the normal state of mind (not the only state of mind suitable and effective, mind you) for peak sexual climax, that lordly, full body and mind, orgasm. The one everyone chases, some never experience...

You need domination, but you need to relax during an intense episode of being fully overpowered, restrained, possibly blindfolded or gagged. Having zero control over your movements and choices, zero control over your body, and knowing this almost primal animal who now has the power to do anything he'd ever dream of with your body, and at your own expense no less. That this man can be trusted enough with your safety and body, and mind and soul, to give you the total domination and "degrading" .. fucked senseless pounding that you need, all while having made sure your subconscious knows it trusts him, and is making you feel like one, whole, completed woman.

So let us come full circle...

You should be adored, cared for, spoiled, and flaunted, for being able to give me what I crave. In turn you get what you crave. It comes from 2 or more people actually thinking about someone other than themselves the whole time.

A good dom does not want to do anything that would make a sub not crave him constantly.

So, let's talk and see if we click.