Hello,

I am a pansexual non-binary person (amab, agender) who is 34 years old (35 before the end of September). I use any pronouns as long as the intent is respectful. My sexuality and gender identity is something I am still exploring.

I am a dominant. My main kink is control and the methods to establish and enforce that with in a consensual dynamic. I have been exploring this for well over 10 years with a recent gap to incorporate some personal growth in therapy. Politically, I am very left leaning if that matters.

I am polyamorous, but typically I've been in relationships with just one person. I don't condone cheating or don't ask don't tell policies. If you have other partners, great. If not, great. If we establish a dynamic, we will (outside of power exchange, discuss and negotiate any additional relationships that may now or in the future exist so that everyone is treating with respect and humanity.

I want to use my control to help someone meet their goals, grow into themselves, and enrich both of our lives. I have a large and broad range of other kinks that I enjoy engaging in. At this time, I'm most interested in pursuing a live in dynamic focused on protocol and power exchange. I would prefer someone who is not cis-gender and who is neurodivergent at this time. I'm not going to exclude anyone from consideration just because of your sexuality or gender however.

I am on the Autism spectrum (low support needs at this time), I have ADHD, and I do battle depression. I would prefer someone who understands these and is eager to work to support me as I support them as well.

Outside of kink, I practice a martial art, attend (and occasionally perform in) drag shows, do charity walks, build model kits, have queer audacity moments and accomplish a random crafty project with no prior experience, play tabletop RPGs and video games, and hang out with my dog (often on long walks, especially when it's cooler). I have a career in IT, live alone, and am completely independent and self sufficient. I'm not terminally online so I won't always see messages or be able to respond.

Kinks include: Control, bondage (rope and other materials), impact play, pet play, pony play, outfits (kinky, slutty, and vanilla), electricity play, chastity, contracts, CNC, blood play, watersports, and many more things. I don't need every kink to be engaged to have a good time.

Hard limits include: Involving others who cannot or don't consent (this includes many forms of public play), anything that sets off my mental health triggers (to be discussed), anything that has an unmitigatable risk to the long term health and safety of either partner, and play related to gender, sexuality, or race.

Ideal dynamics are pretty varied. Not everything on my kink list is a requirement, but I really do enjoy control. My therapist and I have talked about it. There's some lore in there. I can be extremely sadistic for the right partner, or extremely loving and caring. I love cuddles, but I also love making people cry. Part of my dominance is service. Working with my partner to match their kink, personal, and professional needs to help us each grow, thrive and satisfy us both. I know it seems vague and nebulous, but that's because it is. We would need to talk about our needs and desires to determine if we are compatible.

I get better alerts about Reddit Messages, but Reddit chats also work.

I am potentially interested in a dynamic that includes relocating to the UK as I am a dual citizen. I'm working on finding employment there, and if things went well, I would consider marriage to get my partner a visa.