Howdy all! This is going to be a long post. I’m specifically looking to find my forever partner and I want to lay out who I am and what I’m looking for clearly. I’m not looking to find as many matches as possible, I’m looking to find my one submissive for a lifelong dynamic.

So first and foremost, to not waste anyone’s time, some limits and deal breakers to weed out those who are not a match.

* Please be between 23-45. I’m flexible with age as it is the personal dynamic that matters, but the age ranges beyond these are too far to work for me.

* If you are a tobacco smoker, we won’t work.

* If you are strongly conservative we are not a match. I am not a party loyalist, but I do not agree with the majority of these viewpoints.

* If you have pet allergies. I have a dog and cat and always will, as well as other pets.

* If you have kids. I’m open to potentially starting my own family, but I have no interest in taking on the role of step dad.

* You are in/want a poly/ENM relationship. I’m open to exploring our sexuality and experimenting, I have no interest in third party partners.

* If you are looking for someone who drips machismo and instantly commands respect, I am not for you. I am not here to fill a role as kink dispenser for you, no more than you are for me. Your submission is, rightfully, earned. My domination is equally earned.

* If you have low libido or are asexual, we are not a match. I have a higher-than-average libido and need someone who can closely match this.

* My kink limits include scat, age regression (fine outside the bedroom, limit inside), ABDL, bladder control/bathroom use, and permanent damage. Soft limits include blood play/cutting, piss play, and fire play. On top of this, if anal play is a limit for you, I’m sorry we won’t work. Outside of these, I’m very open-minded and willing to try most things at least once.

For those of you who are still with me, hello! I’ll follow up with some info on what kind of Dom I am and the type of dynamic and relationship I’m looking for. Afterwards, I’ll explain more about who I am individually.

I am a Daddy/Pleasure Dom looking for his forever submissive/pet. I don’t consider myself a sadist, but I have no problems with putting a brat in her place. Outside of dynamic and play, I enjoy spoiling my submissive as a princess and connecting with her emotionally. I am a romantic and my dating style reflects this. Do you find simple dinner dates old and cliché? Do you want your Dom to provide physical and emotional security while leaving you flustered and excited when flirting? Do you want to be the attention grabbing power couple that leaves everyone jealous? We may be a good match. Inside play, I want my personal slut and toy. With an array of kinks from romance and praise to bondage and obedience training, I want to explore our fantasies together. Bonus points to rope enthusiasts!

Do you want your Dom to take the lead and guide you through life? Do you want your Dom to set daily tasks designed to both take care of yourself and let out your inner slut? I am seeking a fair power exchange, but not a 100% trade. We are individuals and both need our time to be ourselves. I am open to potentially starting a family with the right person, but I am happy living an adventurous life with just me and my submissive. I do tend to lean a bit towards a traditional 1950’s-esque relationship style, but modern life has its own demands.

If you’re intrigued by the above, please continue to learn more about me.

I am a single 34yo cis male from Oregon. Never married, no kids, liberal-leaning, non-religious. I’m 6’2”, shaved hair, red bearded, blue eyed, Caucasian (Irish and Nordic), and chubby yet active. I’ve been on a fitness journey the last several months, trading a lot of bad habits to become a healthier version of myself. I have a couple large tattoos with plans for more.  I have a 3yo boxer and 3yo cat, both high energy and very demanding of my attention, so I’m used to and enjoy clinginess. I’m an avid reader and writer, I free-dive in the ocean bay, and am an amateur mushroom hunter. I love working in the kitchen and experimenting with recipes. I am furthering my degree in medical imaging and the next couple of years are locked in. I know what life I want and am actively building towards it. I crave someone who likewise knows what she wants in her life and has the ambition to pursue it.

I have often been called a love-child crossbreed of Chandler Bing and Ron Swanson. Banter and teasing are my love languages. Close seconds are words of affirmation and acts of service. I’ve had friends and coworkers call me a goofy yet passionate person. I have a more laid-back personality and approach until the switch is turned on. That can happen from either crisis in life or a submissive who needs to be reminded who’s in charge.

About you: I’ve found wonderful connections with people with all sorts of different backgrounds so I’m focused on building that spark with each other. This means being friends first. As above, I’m making big changes in my overall health. I don’t expect a model by any means, but I prefer someone who is at least proactive in her physical and mental health. I love my nights in, but I don’t want a relationship that largely exists on the couch.

If this calls to you, I’d love to hear from you. Please send me a message/chat with your favorite animal in the intro. ~Please note I will not reply to messages without this.~ Physical attraction is not a key component, but a necessary aspect of dating. I will verify shortly after messaging and request you do so with recent SFW photos. Recent being within the last 6 months. I am open to long-distance, both in and outside the US. I would want us to travel and see each other at least on occasion, but must be open to relocation in time.